by Stephanie A Tschida
(Desert Hills AZ)

My father fell and hurt his shoulder. He went to the Doctor.... He had a large soft mass on his right shoulder.They diagnosed him with spots on his lungs.okay No answer about the mass,it wasnt Cancer. He was fine at the time.Out side playing with my sisters young children....running around....I have pictures. They schedule him for Chemo Therapy Which he choose to do, since this was all of the sudden news an he wanted to live. Grant it I am not a Doctor an I was living in Az at the time, my Father smoked but The Doctors should have known an considered that when they gave him a first full dose of Chemo it would be to much. He went home,got horribly sick and went back to the hospital.He died a few days later.I know it was to much Chemo that killed him but also on his Death Certificate the Doctors said he died from Sleep Epnea.THIS IS A STRAIGHT UP LIE.It Was The Chemo That Killed Him! He passed at the age of 66.I AM STILL GRIEVING AN UPSET OVER WHAT AND HOW IT HAPPENED. The Head of the Hospital IC Unit could not an would not answer me as to why this happened!

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Sep 08, 2014
by: Doreen UK

Stephanie I am so sorry for your loss of your father to a sudden death. So many mistakes are made in the medical profession and much is done to protect the profession despite what the families go through when a loved one is ill. I don't understand why your father was given Chemo if his mass was not due to Cancer. Chemo has side effects and does cause one to be ill. It seems as if an improper diagnosis was made, or that the Chemo was not benefiting your father. I would have thought that one goes through tests first to see that there are no allergic reactions to this drug.
My husband had lung cancer caused by asbestos. He was given Cisplatin, Alimpta, and Carbo Platin. On reading up on the Internet I discovered that these are the two worst types of Chemo and should never be given. My husband responded O.K. to his Chemo but his cancer was terminal and was only buying him time. He was sent home to die and died 2yrs. ago. It is a horrendous cancer journey and grief journey. but somehow it is only TIME that is going to Heal such a loss. Sometimes it is a hard battle trying to get answers and the spirit can't rest till those answers are found. You have to weigh up the risks and emotional pain of mounting a battle with little evidence.
In my husband's case I fought up a battle for a previous illness of ENCEPHALITIS, in 2005. I took this battle to the top, and our Doctor came to our home and then admitted mistakes were made and things would change, admitting that as a doctor he only got 30 minutes training on this illness. When the doctor admitted that mistakes were made my anger just evaporated. I dropped the case. But I still say that doctors should have a better understanding of all illnesses even those that develop now. Thank God for the Internet and search engines. I found out my husband's symptoms were serious and should warrant care. I acted quickly otherwise he would have been in a coma for 6 weeks with severe residual brain injury. His brain injury was less severe as a result of our quick action as a family. I hope that you feel some measure of comfort knowing that you are not alone and perhaps the confidence to mount your own campaign for answers.

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