Stephen Michael; 29 years of life

by Lisa
(Spencer IA)

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This is Stephen in a nutshell; fun-loving. The first day of kindergarten, he had to stay in for recess for talking too much. He loved school – but for the social part. I never got a bad report card for him but nearly every teacher would comment “talks when he should be listening”. He loved sports; playing baseball, basketball, football and soccer. But as he got older, he gave up organized sports; practice time put a serious crimp in his social life. He preferred to hang out with friends.

Stephen was a natural born salesperson. He could make anything sound plausible. His charm and his smirky smile were legendary among his friends and family. He had a high pitched giggle that he would let loose when something really hit his funny bone and his laugh was contagious.

Stephen LOVED Christmas. From the day he was old enough to get out of bed on his own, Christmas morning would begin around 4:00 a.m. He used to pinch his baby sister to wake her up so we’d all be forced to get up with him. Even when he was in his twenties, he was the first one up, usually before dawn, waiting for the rest of us to drag ourselves out of bed at the first crack of daylight. (At least he stopped pinching his sister!) No matter what his work load was or how bad the weather was, he always made it home for Christmas. He would sit on the couch after our family tradition Christmas Eve dinner of crab legs and sigh contentedly. He was so happy to be home and be a kid again during the brief holiday break.

I am still waiting for a sign from him. Something to tell me he is happy. Something to let me know he forgives me for not being there for him during his final days. I know he loved me. And I know he knew I loved him. Death may have separated us physically, but as long and I can hear his giggle in my head he’s still with me.

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Mar 18, 2014
Lost my son, too, also my only child
by: Anonymous

My son tragically died only 5 weeks ago. He was and will always be the light of my life. I loved being a mom, and was very involved with him during childhood. He was away at college, and had an accidental fall, died at 24 years old. He had such a bright future, he was majoring in Mechanical Engineering, and the school is granted his diploma posthumously. I feel so bad that he could not reap the rewards of all his hard work. He was also in the Army National Guard, and had just been commissioned as an officer. His future was soo bright.

I also have moved, which was planned before my sons death, into my elderly fathers home, who also now has potentially major health issues.

I will never be the same....I loved him so.

Dec 06, 2013
may god give you the strength
by: ysheela

I can understand your pain so much as I am going through the same phase. I lost my son Hari who was 23 years old to a relapse of TB meningitis which is a rare case according to the medical fraternity. The anguish, despair, void and loneliness is something which cannot be said and is very hard to endure it. I feel it is a lifetime punishment for mothers who lose their children and we have to endure it even though it is very very difficult. Today also I am praying to God to unite me with my son and give me a bit of strength to go on. I have a younger daughter and my husband is there for me but for me life has no meaning, nothing. All say I have to live for them but I am just going on in life. May God give you the strength to go on

Oct 24, 2013
My prayers are with you.
by: Rosa

I am so so very sorry for your loss. I know what it is to lose a son as well and mine was 29 years of age as well. My sons death was sudden and very bad, I pray that your sons wasn't. My heart goes out to you and know exactly what you are feeling because I walked that walk back in 2011. I can sincerely give God many thanks for seeing me through this harsh time. I pray that you seek out someone who has gone through a death experience and share your feelings, thoughts and everything. It is so important that you do this to be able to get through the grief process. If you want to email me, I can walk you through a few things that helped me. My name is Rosa and my email is : Death impacts our lives in a horrible way and we are never the same person from before the loss of our loved ones, but we can learn to live our lives dealing with the loss. I pray Gods strength on your life and the courage to keep going till hopefully one day you will be reunited with him.

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