Stephy and Stan

by Stephenie Crisp
(Chattanooga TN United States)

I met Stan 4 years ago. He was 18 years older than me and all of his friends and family thought I was with him for his money. When we met it was love at first sight. It think I fell deeply in love with him the moment I saw him.

We met December 15, 2005. He proposed December 15, 2007 and we were going to get married December 15, 2009. He didn't have any children and I did. My children had not seen their father in 4 years. Stan became their father. He was going to adopt them after we got married. He was the love of my life.

On October 20, 2009, he had 5 seizures from alcohol withdrawal. After the first one (in my car) he had no pulse, wasn't breathing and was turning blue. I got him breathing again and called 911. He had his second one before the EMTs got there. They got him into the ambulance and he had another and went into cardiac arrest. I saw them doing C.P.R. on him. When we got to the hospital he had 2 more.

They intubated him and moved him to I.C.U. I stayed at the hospital for 4 days. I slept 15 hours total while I was there. On October 24th, his mother decided to take him off the vent. We took him off at 3:30 and he lived until 8:15pm. I stayed with him the whole time.

I promised I would be with him for the rest of his life and I was holding his hand when he took his last breath. I have never met a man like him before. He was loving and caring and would not hurt a fly. All he ever wanted was to have a woman who truly loved him, and children. He had both before his death.

My children called him dad and no one will ever be able to fill the void his death has left in all of our lives.

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Jan 03, 2010
Touched by an angel named Stan
by: Down Under Australia

Stephy, my condolences on your loss of your true love. How lucky you were to find him and share those precious moments. Many do not find such love at all. Be thankful for the times together and for being so strong and not letting anyone pull you apart. Stan touched your heart as you and your kids did his. xox

Jan 02, 2010
by: Anonymous

Dear Stephenie,
I am very sorry for your loss. my sympathy to you and your children.

Stan was 18 years older than you. Love knows no age, is not selfish, and is a gift of God. You were given the gift that a lot of people would buy if they could. It's only been a short time since his passing. Give yourself time to feel the grief and shed your tears, remember the good things about your Stan. He came into your life for a reason.

May the love of God be with you and His healing love surround you.

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