I lost my beautiful son suddenly to SADS December 27, 2010. I moved 5 miles from him in 2006 so I would not miss anything as a mother or grandmother. He married a LDS girl and I am not LDS. The daughter in law seem to be good to me until December 27, 2010.
It took the daughter in law 30 minutes to get the fire department 2 miles. She had called the neighbors to come help her before she did anything. They have three beautiful girls 12, 10 and 2. All those people in the house for over an hour and the girls never woke up. I'm 5 miles and on speed dial. My son called me one to two times a day. They never called until they reached the hospital. By that time he was gone. When I arrived her entire friends, Bishop and family from all over where at the hospital. I asked to see my son and talk with the doctors and was told no. Not yet by her family. I went outside to fall apart and call my daughter his sister and father who had not been called. When they let me see my son it was with them. I sat in the fourth row of his funeral behind her entire extended family. Even though I was given no time with my son alone. I never left anywhere until he left. The daughter in law sisters said I was a terrible mother and my son hated me for which my niece took up in my defense. All this on face book. I asked the daughter in law to have them stop and she said it was approved by her and I was taking it wrong. Then she sent me a ten page email telling why I can not see the girls. And for some reason I go from a loved grandmother to hated grandmother per her letter.
It has been 13 months and I still can not move on as I live 5 miles from the daughter in law and her family. Economy bad right now so I can not sell my house. I lost not only my son but his entire family. My heart bleeds everyday.