Still hurting

by Pat Foster

Here I am again. Haven't even begun to come to terms with my son's death and now the holidays are upon us, this is hard, hard, hard. Never felt this kind of emptiness, hurt & heartbreak before. The holidays are never going to be the same, my life will never be the same nor will anyone else in our family. I love you Jerry and miss you so darn much,why?? Love you forever, Mom

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Nov 28, 2010
so sorry
by: Karen

My 26 year old son was killed in a traffic accident just 4 weeks ago. The pain I feel in my heart is just so agonizing. I know somehow we will all survive despite our sorrow. Take care of yourself as your loved one would want that for you.

Nov 27, 2010
Made it through the day
by: Shirley holiday down, too many more to go. Made it through Thanksgiving with my family. We were all so sad but we celebrated Thanksgiving with Dimitri in our hearts. The last few days have been interesting. So many little signs that my sweet son has been watching over me. I'm so thankful for that.

Nov 23, 2010
all of us
by: kay

I know just how you feel sweetheart, it is getting closer to xmas and I am falling apart...this will be my first xmas, my son died in may this year 23. It seems like the pain is so intensified. I don't want it to happen...I am so scared....but Just know that we are not alone, we all feel this emptiness in our hearts and our lives. We will never be the same people we were. I feel we all have a special connection and each one of us truly knows what each feels....I love you all. I am thinking of you all. Kay

Nov 22, 2010
I know how much it hurts
by: Shirley

Pat, it will be my "first" Thanksgiving without my beautiful son too. Twenty three is too young to die. He had his whole world and his whole life ahead of him. He had so many dreams. I have been going to the Compassionate Friends meetings here in Calif. They are very painful to attend but I find that they help and when it's time for the next meeting I'm very anxious to go. Know that others are walking this walk with you on Thanksgiving. Maybe our prayers will hold us all up. That's all I can hope for.

Nov 22, 2010
by: Deb

I understand your pain. My Granddaughter, Ella, passed away on 9/7/2010. She was only six months old. I also find it nearly unbearable to watch my son and daughter-in-law try to put the pieces back together. Have you looked in to support groups? The one I am familiar with is "The Compassionate Friends". It is strictly for families that have lost children, any age, any cause. Maybe talking with families that are going through the exact same thing would help. They have groups, and meetings all over the country. The holidays are going to painful, there is no way around it.

Nov 19, 2010
death of a child
by: Anonymous

I too have lost my son---my first born child---just 4 months ago. I now realize that absolutely no one knows anything about this intense pain, unless they have been there; And so we often feel alone...but sadly, we are not......way too many parents also walk this same path we are now on. I send you a hug, my care and prayers; we parents are in this together.

Nov 19, 2010
Finding Peace Within
by: Anonymous


I have not commented because what you are going through is the worst nightmare that I can imagine. And I have, Yesterday I had an awful feeling that something happened, to who I don't know. The thing is all is well and If it can scare the heck outta me, Your reality scares me more. I wish I had the right words to soothe you.

I do believe that the ones that we loved and lost are looking down on us and have found all the answers and peace that here on earth we cannot.
I wish you My Very Best as you travel the hard and bumpy ride of grief.

Keep writing if not for this site I am quite sure that I would have lost my mind.

Nov 18, 2010
Hugs and Love
by: Anonymous

Hello, I wish I had something to say to help, but I just couldn't read your post without commenting on how sorry I am for your loss. I live on the other ocean coast, but I can feel the pain in your words. I care that you have lost your child. I am so sorry, and I hope that you will find the strength to just keep breathing. I simply cannot imagine. You are right, nothing will ever be the same. I hope that good memories will sustain you on your darkest days. Take care of yourself.

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