At the tender age of 22 years, I married a man I wasn’t in love with for all the wrong reasons, hoping to discover happiness and avoid parental control. Twenty-three years and four children later, I finally got up the nerve to divorce him, only to rebound with another man who had been a trusted friend for many years. I thought I honestly loved him. We lived together for a year and then married. Three years later, I have come to realize he is a total narcissist and does not have my back in times of trouble. Now I am about to drag my poor children through another divorce. When will I learn? I know that I must face myself and my own insecurities to stop this pattern of running away. I feel so lost and confused. I am very sad about the whole thing. My husband wants us back but I am still very hurt by him and cannot trust that he will be there for me. What to do...