My dad and I had a rocky relationship. But we loved each other very much. Hard to believe huh? Im sure he knew he was sick but he never let on just how sick he really was. I got a call that he passed and I remember saying that I didn't get a chance to say Im sorry or to say goodbye. Although I cried and couldn't sleep many nights I think I still have not grieved properly and I feel stuck in a rut. Good days and then bad days like a never ending roller coaster. I love you dad and I miss you so much. But Im so happy that you are no longer in pain. Love always

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Jul 17, 2014
by: Doreen UK

None of us knows what to expect from grief and how it makes us feel. When we go through it we feel as if this awful pain will last forever. But it doesn't. It comes exactly as you are going through. Good days and bad days. Up and down. Wondering when it is going to end. Not knowing what you will feel on any given day. Best way forward for all of us is TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME. Even one moment at a time. Whatever works for you. Even if you and your Dad did not get on at times, you must realise this is part of life. Sometimes we don't get to resolve our hurts and differences from the past and it does affect our grief. In time you will be able to let go of these feelings as they are an aspect of grief. Most parents are MATURE enough to know what is going on in their relationship with their children and a wise parent will allow their children the TIME and SPACE to grow and develop and have those awkward tantrums and moments, that growing up does to all of us. Some of us get to resolve our difficulties if we go into counselling, and many manage to live with their problems and it just resolves itself with healing. Whatever you do don't beat yourself up with guilt. It serves no purpose and just stops us living and moving forward. You will recover from your loss of your father be it months or years. If you find yourself still STUCK in grief you can see a counsellor who is trained and will help you move forward better. I wish you Peace and comfort in your grief.

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