My mom began complaining of leg pain 8 months before she passed. It was progressively getting worse - so she went to her primary care doctor and they thought it was arthritis. However when the pain didn't go away we decided to take a trip to the ER - the doc there took an X ray, said the leg wasn't broken and that it was just a muscle. She collapsed and died in front of me the next day - I called 911 but it was too late. She died of a massive pulmonary embolism - the autopsy revealed a huge blood clot had travelled to her lungs. I was 31, and mom was 65. May 11th 2009: a day I will never forget. Death has a funny way of keeping everything so real. RIP mom, I will live with that day in my mind the rest of my life... if anyone has experienced a sudden death and wants to chat my email is lexia@myself.com.
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Sudden Loss has a way of keeping things real...
I am very sorry about your mother. My mom passed 2 weeks ago today in her sleep from a pulmonary embolism. Very sudden and unexpected. Losing a parent is a hurt like no other...
Sudden Loss is heartbreaking by: Anonymous
My brother suddenly passed on 12/07/2011-I still do not know the cause. I spoke to him the night before and I struggle to remember if I told him I loved him.......
Thank you by: Anonymous
Thank you for your words of wisdom so sad dad. My condolences on the loss of your daughters.
Lexia's Beautiful Mom by: SoSadDad
Lexia, first, your mom is very beautiful. My losses aren't quite the same, but they are sudden. I lost my mom several years ago. It hurt very much. But she lived across the country and I saw her only every few years. The worst losses were my two adult daughters (http://www.recover-from-grief.com/two-down-and-none-to-go.html). Both died suddenly from drug overdoses, about two years apart, the last just 5 months ago. The memories of our losses will stay with us to our graves. I suppose the hurt, loneliness, confusion and more will recede with time, but I'm not sure I believe it right now. And probably you don't either. Just continue to talk about her. They say one day you'll begin to enjoy thinking of the good times and not just lamenting the loss. I guess that's true, also.
