Summer Love,Summer Loss" 2007"

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Summer Love,Summer Loss" 2007"

by Janet F.
(Port Saint Lucie,Fl. U.S.A.)

This tragedy did creep up on us. Lessons were learned because of my beloved husband Mikes' sudden death. We are seniors who only wanted to let life finally sort of be more gracious to us.

My honey still had a part time job to get a little more spending money. Maybe this was wrong, I will never know. It certainly brought a lot of grief to me after he died. On September 8th, 2006, after being checked for having had a heart attack, Mike was operated on. Triple By Pass. What a shock.

These surgeries are life saving really. He pulled through pretty good. They found another problem upon operating. His Mitral Valve had a small tear in it. We were told to rest at home and sometime later they would have to operate again. So that didn't make us feel too good. They said watch for symptoms and take it easy.

About 9mo. later, June 7 2007, it was decided they had to operate because of fatigue and weight loss, also it had to be replaced with a pig valve. The surgery was risky because he was not that strong.

The surgeon pulled him through though, and he was glad it was over. Blood thinners were important there is no doubt. The blood has to keep from clotting too severely. In 10 days he came home. We all took good care to follow Doctors' orders but something went terribly wrong. A visiting nurse was assigned but !!!! never checked his clotting levels.

My poor husband sat up in bed at 2:15am on the 25th. of June, said a few words to me, he then lost consciousness. The ambulance arrived as soon as I called them. He was put on life support and sometime later we were told after a cat scan that he had a severe brain bleed. Very shortly later he started to hemorrhage from his nose & mouth.

What a sad sad day. He was taken off life support. Leaving without him that day is etched in my mind. That visiting nurse failed at her responsibility. I hurt because you put your trust in the hands of strangers,and you believe they know what they are doing. Yes I'm angry!

Mike never got a chance to heal, to get on with life again. He was 72.

Sincerely Janet.

P.S. I'll love him forever

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LIFE WITHOUT MY MIKE F.
by: JANET F.

DEAR GOD, MY BELOVED MIKE HAS GONE TO HEAVEN. IT'S BEEN 20 MONTHS SINCE HE DIED, ON JUNE 25TH, 2007.I STILL WONDER WHY WITH ALL OUR MODERN TECHNOLOGY,IF SOMETHING SO SIMPLE AS TURNING IN HIS BLOOD RESULTS TO HIS CARDIOLOGIST AFTER HIS 2ND SURGERY THAT THE VISITING NURSE FAILED TO DO FOR THE 10 DAYS SHE CAME TO OUR HOME AFTER HE WAS DISCHARGED.

WITH HER UNIFORM ON AND EQUIPMENT SHE HAD IN HER BLACK BAG.THE BLOOD WAS DRAWN BUT HIS CARDIOLOGIST NEVER GOT ANY BLOOD RESULTS TURNED IN.

"WHAT A GROSS MISTAKE" IS WHAT HE SAID, AFTER HE ARRIVED AT THE HOSPITAL TO CHECK ON MY MIKE. THIS SHOULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED,AND I'LL GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS!

WELL, I'M TELLING ALL THIS BECAUSE YOU COULD HAVE THE BEST DOCTOR BUT ALL THINGS HAVE TO WORK TOGETHER FOR A GOOD OUTCOME. I CAN SAY I KNOW HE DIDN'T SUFFER BECAUSE HE PASSED OUT AT HOME HERE AND NEVER SAID ANOTHER WORD. HE WAS ON COUMADIN TO KEEP THE BLOOD IN THE PROPER RANGE SO THERE WOULD BE NO BLOOD CLOTS FORMING. WELL WITHOUT THE DOCTOR HAVING GOTTEN NO RESULTS, HIS BLOOD GOT TOO THIN . HE HAD A SEVERE BRAIN BLEED.

MAYBE, JUST MAYBE BY ADMITTING MISTAKES ARE MADE, YOU REALLY HAVE TO THINK, WAS THIS DIVINE INTERVENTION? IN MY HEART I PREFER TO BELIEVE HE WENT WITH THE ANGELS, HE IS STILL SO LOVED.

A GOOD HUSBAND, FATHER OF THREE GROWN ADULT CHILDREN AND 7 GRANDCHILDREN.
---YOUR BELOVED WIFE JANET F.XOXOXO

THE VISITING NURSE FAILED,THO SHE DREW HIS BLOOD EVERY DAY. IF IT WAS JUST MEANT TO BE MIKE'S TIME TO BE CALLED HOME. MOST ASSUREDLY LIFE IS SAD WITHOUT HIM HERE.

I NEVER HAVE KEPT THIS ANGER AT THE MISTAKE THAT WAS MADE, REAL VIVID IN MY MIND BECAUSE WHAT GOOD WOULD IT DO? I'M VERY SURE IT WAS A TRAGIC ERROR, OR ELSE HOW COULD I HIS WIFE SIMPLY PUT, NEVER EVER DWELL ON THAT TRAGIC ERROR...

HE HAD 2 OPEN HEART SURGERIES 9 MONTHS APART. THE FIRST WAS A TRIPLE BYPASS. 9 M0NTHS LATER HE WOKE UP IN MUCH DISTRESS. HE WAS SOAKED IN SWEAT, WHICH WAS A SYMPTOM OF SOMETHING VERY WRONG. HIS MITRAL VALVE WAS LEAKING. SO THE 2nd SURGERY HAD TO BE DONE IMMEDIATELY.

AFTER 10 DAYS, HE CAME HOME. IF HIS BLOOD RESULTS WERE GIVEN TO THE DR. HIS VERY THIN BLOOD FROM TOO STRONG A DOSE OF COUMADIN COULD HAVE BEEN DETECTED.

I SAY GOD HAS HELPED ME AND WE ARE A CLOSE FAMILY. ALSO I JOINED A GRIEVING GROUP WHERE I MET VERY GOOD PEOPLE SUFFERING THE SAME TYPE OF LOSS. YOU MUST REACH OUT,AND BELIEVE GOD IS IN CONTROL. MY HEART GOES OUT TO ANYONE WHO IS SUFFERING AS I HAVE. BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF, THE BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES WILL START TO MAKE THE ROAD AHEAD MORE GENTLE. TRY HARD TO PUT IT ALL TOGETHER,TRY TO HAVE FAITH. IT IS VERY HARD AT FIRST. GET DOWN ON YOUR KNEES AND CRY OUT. YOU WILL BE HEARD. I KNOW....

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DEAR GOD, MY BELOVED MIKE HAS GONE TO HEAVEN. IT'S BEEN 20 MONTHS SINCE HE DIED, ON JUNE 25TH, 2007.I STILL WONDER WHY WITH ALL OUR MODERN TECHNOLOGY,IF SOMETHING SO SIMPLE AS TURNING IN HIS BLOOD RESULTS TO HIS CARDIOLOGIST AFTER HIS 2ND SURGERY THAT THE VISITING NURSE FAILED TO DO FOR THE 10 DAYS SHE CAME TO OUR HOME AFTER HE WAS DISCHARGED. WITH HER UNIFORM ON AND EQUIPMENT SHE HAD IN HER BLACK BAG.THE BLOOD WAS DRAWN BUT HIS CARDIOLOGIST NEVER GOT ANY BLOOD RESULTS TURNED IN. "WHAT A GROSS MISTAKE" IS WHAT HE SAID, AFTER HE ARRIVED AT THE HOSPITAL TO CHECK ON MY MIKE. THIS SHOULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED,AND I'LL GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS! WELL, I'M TELLING ALL THIS BECAUSE YOU COULD HAVE THE BEST DOCTOR BUT ALL THINGS HAVE TO WORK TOGETHER FOR A GOOD OUTCOME. I CAN SAY I KNOW HE DIDN'T SUFFER BECAUSE HE PASSED OUT AT HOME HERE AND NEVER SAID ANOTHER WORD. HE WAS ON COUMADIN TO KEEP THE BLOOD IN THE PROPER RANGE SO THERE WOULD BE NO BLOOD CLOTS FORMING. WELL WITHOUT THE DOCTOR HAVING GOTTEN NO RESULTS, HIS BLOOD GOT TOO THIN . HE HAD A SEVERE BRAIN BLEED. MAYBE, JUST MAYBE BY ADMITTING MISTAKES ARE MADE, YOU REALLY HAVE TO THINK, WAS THIS DIVINE INTERVENTION? IN MY HEART I PREFER TO BELIEVE HE WENT WITH THE ANGELS, HE IS STILL SO LOVED. A GOOD HUSBAND, FATHER OF THREE GROWN ADULT CHILDREN AND 7 GRANDCHILDREN. ---YOUR BELOVED WIFE JANET F.XOXOXO THE VISITING NURSE FAILED,THO SHE DREW HIS BLOOD EVERY DAY. IF IT WAS JUST MEANT TO BE MIKE'S TIME TO BE CALLED HOME. MOST ASSUREDLY LIFE IS SAD WITHOUT HIM HERE. I NEVER HAVE KEPT THIS ANGER AT THE MISTAKE THAT WAS MADE, REAL VIVID IN MY MIND BECAUSE WHAT GOOD WOULD IT DO? I'M VERY SURE IT WAS A TRAGIC ERROR, OR ELSE HOW COULD I HIS WIFE SIMPLY PUT, NEVER EVER DWELL ON THAT TRAGIC ERROR... HE HAD 2 OPEN HEART SURGERIES 9 MONTHS APART. THE FIRST WAS A TRIPLE BYPASS. 9 M0NTHS LATER HE WOKE UP IN MUCH DISTRESS. HE WAS SOAKED IN SWEAT, WHICH WAS A SYMPTOM OF SOMETHING VERY WRONG. HIS MITRAL VALVE WAS LEAKING. SO THE 2nd SURGERY HAD TO BE DONE IMMEDIATELY. AFTER 10 DAYS, HE CAME HOME. IF HIS BLOOD RESULTS WERE GIVEN TO THE DR. HIS VERY THIN BLOOD FROM TOO STRONG A DOSE OF COUMADIN COULD HAVE BEEN DETECTED. I SAY GOD HAS HELPED ME AND WE ARE A CLOSE FAMILY. ALSO I JOINED A GRIEVING GROUP WHERE I MET VERY GOOD PEOPLE SUFFERING THE SAME TYPE OF LOSS. YOU MUST REACH OUT,AND BELIEVE GOD IS IN CONTROL. MY HEART GOES OUT TO ANYONE WHO IS SUFFERING AS I HAVE. BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF, THE BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES WILL START TO MAKE THE ROAD AHEAD MORE GENTLE. TRY HARD TO PUT IT ALL TOGETHER,TRY TO HAVE FAITH. IT IS VERY HARD AT FIRST. GET DOWN ON YOUR KNEES AND CRY OUT. YOU WILL BE HEARD. I KNOW....

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What a tragedy
by: Anonymous

Janet,

I am so very sorry for your loss. How tragic, it sounds like it could have been prevented.

As a nurse, I feel like your story may help others. Sometimes health care professionals forget how serious their job is and how precious each patient is to their loved ones. Your story may help remind them.

I am so sorry the system failed you and Mike, and wish you comfort and hope for your future without him.

Jennie

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