Taken from us at 17, an amazing child

by Linda
(San Diego)

Bre is our daughter. She turned 17 on March 16, 2010. Taken from us May 28, 2010. There was a car accident, Bre was a passenger in the back middle seat, there were 4 others in the car, all their lives were saved, all except our Bre. The accident occurred when Bre's very best friend, hit an on coming vehicle. Bre's friend was driving and ran head on into a Moving truck.

Bre, we are told, died instantly, they say she had no pain. I don't know how they know that, did she speak? We never got to see her, we arrived on the scene just minutes after and were told by a witness that our daughter was dead. It has been 3 weeks and we don't understand. Bre had 2 Dads, the one she lived with here and her Biological Father in another city. I am Mom. Bre left behind a brother my son, a half brother and 3 half sisters.

My grief is multiplied to the extent that I cannot take away my pain and my inability to help them is devastating. You are right when you say the loss of a child is the worst, no one should have to feel this pain. It will never go away, Our lives will never be the same. Each of us is unsure how to fit into this knew life, we all know we don't want it. We all only wish Bre was home, again not understanding why, why Bre.

Guilt, I feel guilty for not protecting her, I fell guilty because I should of been there, she died alone, with strangers. I so wish I was there for here. Punished, I don't know what I have done to deserve such punishment. To now live my life without my best friend, my other half.

Anger, oh I am angry, death is not negotiable, you cannot change it, you cannot wish it not true, you are helpless. Faith, I question it, I believe but I question why, why Bre, why us. We have a huge journey ahead of us, as individuals and as a family, but without our Bre, it at the moment seems a journey we do not understand.

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Jan 03, 2011
I understand
by: Anonymous

I am a mom whose daughter died. My daughter was only 3 days old when she died. I want you to know I understand.

Dec 05, 2010
I feel your pain:-(
by: Susan Passeri

I am so sorry for all who have lost a child. I lost my only child, my daughter 10 weeks ago. Samantha was only 19 and was killed in a horrible car accident. I have no idea why she let this boy drive her car that night. It had been raining, he was driving the car over 100mph when he lost control. He killed my daughter and paralyzed her best friend.

I have never felt such hate in my heart for another human being. He has shown no remorse for what he did, it seems like a big joke to him.

I feel lost without her. She was the light of my life. Not a minute goes through the day that I don't think of her and miss her. It is getting especially hard with Christmas coming.

I don't know how we are supposed to move on. I try to take comfort in knowing the she is with my brother we lost 38 years ago and one of her friends who was killed in a car accident 1-1/2 years ago. She suffered from chronic migraines and major depression. I try to take comfort in knowing she is no longer in pain. I wish I could be out of the pain as well.

Hang in there all. We are taking one day at a time. Good luck all.

Nov 11, 2010
Sending thoughts
by: troy's mom

I am so sorry for your loss, my own and any other parent who has lost a child. I lost my 21 year old son Oct. 29, 2009. Fitting back into the world is difficult.

Time does not heal all wounds any more than it can grow a new leg. It just teaches you how to walk without one. We will be forever without our children.

Aug 23, 2010
Lost my only daughter.
by: Anonymous

I lost my daughter 25 years ago. She was my only daughter. Amy was only 15, an auto accident also. I feel for everyone that has lost a child. My life changed that night. I'm still in grief, 25 years and I still mourn.

Aug 15, 2010
Praying for You
by: Pat Tucker

I lost my son May 6th 2005. He was ten years old he was also killed instantly in a car accident. He would be 16 Oct.23rd of this year and I still have not come to terms with the loss of him and don't think I ever will.

I am so sorry for your loss. From every mother that I have talked to we all go through the same things..Did they suffer..did they call out for mom..why...why..me..Am I being punished, is that why he is gone..was I a bad Mom..

It's been 5 years and I still haven't accepted that he is gone..I have been to grief counseling But if you haven't lost a child..how can you tell them what to feel..And pray they will never have to go through the pain that we all have had to endure.

As I sit here writing this I am crying and praying for you and your family my email is pattucker@bellsouth.net.If you or any other parent needs to talk..Pat Tucker..Columbiana Al.

Jun 22, 2010
Loss of Child
by: Brenda Mack

I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I lost my 27 year old son on May 21, 2010. When I was reading your tribute to your child I thought, "I could have wrote that. I am feeling the exact same things". The pain, the guilt. I wonder was he afraid, did he want his Mom? Was he in pain?? He is the second child I have lost but because I lost my daughter when she was only a day old, the pain is different. My son was more than just my son, he was my friend. I truly will never be the same. He loved me unconditionally and made me laugh so.

My heart goes out to you and your family and I want you to know that I am in that same place with you. No one can understand unless they have been there. There is no other pain and suffering to match the loss of a child.

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