Thank You Cuz & The Compassionate Friends of Louisville

by Patricia
(Las Vegas)

We all Need Faith

We all Need Faith

We all Need Faith
And time ~

THE AFTER LOSS CREDO

I need to talk about my loss.
I may often need to tell you what happened -
or to ask you why it happened.
Each time I discuss my loss, I am helping myself
face the reality of the death of my loved one.

I need to know that you care about me.
I need to feel your touch, your hugs.
I need you just to be "with" me.
(And I need to be with you.)
I need to know you believe in me and in my
ability to get through my grief in my own way.
(And in my own time.)

Please don't judge me now -
or think that I'm behaving strangely.
Remember I'm grieving.
I may even be in shock.
I may feel afraid. I may feel deep rage.
I may even feel guilty. But above all, I hurt.
I'm experiencing a pain unlike any I've ever felt before.

Don't worry if you think I'm getting better
and then suddenly I seem to slip backward.
Grief makes me behave this way at times.
And please don't tell me you "know how I feel,"
or that it's time for me to get on with my life.
(I am probably already saying this to myself.)
What I need now is time to grieve and to recover.

Most of all, thank you for being my friend.
Thank you for your patience.
Thank you for caring.
Thank you for helping, for understanding.
Thank you for praying for me.
And remember, in the days or years ahead,
when you may have a loss - when you need me
as I have needed you - I will understand.
And then I will come and be with you.

Always,
1 step, 1 breath at a time

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Sep 03, 2011
friends...
by: Anonymous

I have run out of people to talk to, after all in Dec. (6th) it will be 2 years and my allotted time for compassion has run out. So I mainly think to myself when I have that far away look. If I tear up I might get an "are you O.K?" but for the most part I am supposed to have left my past behind or learned how to live with it.

It is indeed a lonely existence being without the one that I loved more than life itself. Yeah get on with this new life..leave the other one behind right? Easier said than done and only the people here get that.

I really liked the ? Poem/prayer that you wrote, it sums up my thoughts quite nicely. I function which at one time was impossible, I take care of business, do what needs doing but that is not living. It is the living that I struggle with.

We deserve happiness, attaining it however is another mater.
Our Loves would want us to be happy. Somehow I know that they are happy except seeing our pain, If I could change, wake up tomorrow and just be fine I would. Better yes, Much better...
adapting to the life I now live.

All better? No this is not a skinned knee it is a broken heart and though I feel stronger than I ever thought possible, A memory can still bring me to my knees.

I hope that you are getting better day by day, The challenges that life throws at us seem insurmountable but somehow we do get past them...

That's a start right?
HH

Sep 02, 2011
Hugs
by: Cuz

Yes...I thank God for the Compassionate Friends....They are helping me on this horrible journey without my son, one step, one breath. Hugs to you sweet cousin.

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