The brightest star in the sky

I am now 20 years old and about to finish University, my Grandad passed away December 2011 and I am still struggling with his death now.
My Grandad had always been a huge part of my life and having been one of his two grandchildren my brother and I were always the apple of his eye. Coming towards the end of my degree brings back a lot of memories of my Grandad, as I lost him during my first semester of my first year. There are times when I cannot control my emotions and cry uncontrollably at the thought of never seeing him again, but there are also times when I find happiness in knowing how proud he would be of my achievements.
Although I will always miss him I know that he would not want me to put my life on hold and therefore as hard it is sometimes I just have to keep going and knowing that I would be making him proud encourages me to continue!

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May 04, 2014
The brightest star in the sky
by: Doreen UK

Grief is hard to understand. None of us knows what grief feels like, let alone how to deal with this. Often we can become numb with disbelief. Often one can become stuck in grief and not know how to move forward. Others will feel they are coping with grief and moving forward only to find out in a year or two they feel worse. This is the stage I find myself in. It is not easy. We live our lives with our family/friends and can't even imagine how we will feel when we lose them from our lives. When we do, we feel our life has turned upside down and we don't know how to get back to handling this sorrow and loss. It is knowing our loved one's are NEVER COMING BACK. Which is the stumbling block to grief and how to cope with this thought. You are crying so hard now because you are FEELING what you couldn't FEEL when you lost your grandfather. Memories come back and set off triggers which make us feel worse. It could be a favourite place, food, film. etc. that can rake up memories each day. Grief assaults us in many ways. TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME is helpful still. But if years have passed we have to put this into practice again. You won't feel the same way every day. Crying is good grief so don't STOP or be alarmed. Crying won't last forever. Every feeling and emotion has its' day. Crying is where your HEALING will come from. You will get your life back. Know that we will keep losing people from our lives. Just part of living in a fallen world. Like all of us on this grief journey. WE will STRUGGLE. But we will HEAL and recover from our grief.

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