The Cord - Anonymous Poem I Read At My Son's Memorial Service

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The Cord

We are connected, my child and I,
by an invisible cord not seen by the eye

It's not like the cord that connects us 'til birth,
This cord can't be seen by any on earth

This cord does its work right from the start
It binds us together, attached to my heart

I know that it's there, though no one can see
The invisible cord from my child to me

The strength of this cord is hard to describe
It can't be destroyed, it can't be denied

It's stronger than any cord man could create
it withstands the test, can hold any weight

And though you are gone, though you're not here with me
The cord is still there, but no one can see

It pulls at my heart, I am bruised, I am sore
But this cord is my lifeline as never before

I am thankful that God connects us this way
A mother and child, death can't take it away

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Jun 04, 2017
Mother's loss
by: Sue

I lost my baby when I was a few months pregnant and I had to deliver my baby which was so unbearable, i searched and searched the Internet for the right words to be red out at my baby's funeral and this was the perfect words which can describe exactly what I was feeling no other words can describe the unbearable of a mothers loss

May 26, 2017
by: Delma

My son Robert died 36 years ago next month. He died the same day he was born and all these years on this wonderfull poem says everything I still can't.
Than you to whoever wrote this from a mother still grieving

Feb 27, 2017
Such true words
by: Anonymous

I read this at my daughter's funeral, nearly ten years ago now :(

Jan 13, 2017
Baby girl
by: Ls

My daughter died 30th December only 16 weeks we are having this at her funeral.

Dec 12, 2016
Candlelight Vigil
by: Jeanne

I just came home from a Compassionate Friends Annual Candlelight Vigil where someone read this poem. I was so moved. My son Dan will be gone 2 years Dec 19th.
Thank you and God Bless

Dec 07, 2016
by: Pam

First, I am sorry for your loss. I lost my son 5 years ago, and I found this poem and fell in love with it. I read it every year at our Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting service.

Oct 12, 2015
by: Anonymous

I'm having a terrible time with my grieving, I fell like he is going to walk in the door any moment. Then I realize he is not. going into the second year is the hardest, because you start to realize he has passed. I read this poem and made me feel so close to him, yes he is and always be with me. I lost my son from liver rejection and took care of him for 3 years and never got tired of keeping him alive. Who ever has written this poem Thank you with all my heart.

Apr 10, 2015
My Son Dion
by: Anonymous

Thank You for this Poem 'The Cord'
I lost my son tragically in a car auto accident as a passenger. He was 18 years old. He died instantly on impact. In saying that ... Im so glad he did not suffer in pain!
My son's 4th year memorial is coming up in 6days and every time twice a year it never gets easier. I think of him every waking day and how much I Miss him is beyond words.
After reading 'The Cord' I think Im a little more comforted to know My Son and I are still connected. Thank You so much.

Sep 10, 2014
Our losses
by: Donna

Our losses connect us. My sister, Pat read this poem for me (I could not speak) at my son, Michael's, memorial service. Thank you

Jan 14, 2014
Hugs to you Mary
by: Sherry

Dear Mary,
Just wanted to acknowledge your post and Brent. Here's to our sons we love eternally. I just started something new (for me - it's been 15 years, unbelievable that I could have survived 15 years after losing Jon). At 9 every night I stop what I'm doing and sit for a few minutes at the kitchen table with a picture of Jon. All these years I've wanted to hear his voice, to "connect". Driving home the other day, I thought what if he looks in on me during the day, thinks I'm not thinking about him, busy with other things. I thought if I made a regularly scheduled appointment, then he might know exactly when to "show up" and since I'm holding his picture, he knows why I'm sitting there! There's no right or wrong about any of this. How we grieve, how we survive it, how we carry them in our hearts every minute of every day. Hugs to you and to Brent.

Jan 13, 2014
by: Mary

Tomorrow will be 13 month's since Brent became an angel. I read my words below & know now that I am better, never will I be the same, but better than I was 7 month's ago. You learn to keep the pain under wraps & cope with life the best you can. I am functioning at work again, just not enthusiastically. I really thought my life was over too. I know he would not want that for me, so I try to live by seeing positive things daily. It doesn't always work, & I still have meltdowns, but it is better. I will post this tomorrow for the anniversary, & hope that's ok.

Jan 11, 2014
So much pain
by: Janet

I lost my daughter 3 months ago today she was 23 and a nurse coming home from night shift from work from helping people. I never knew how many people loved her just how much her dad and twin sister and I did, there were over 700 people at her funeral I couldn't believe it I miss her so much ever day. I find comfort in The Cord to Know someone else feels like me. I know I will never "get over" her death I just hope to feel a "little better" one day soon xxxx

Jun 14, 2013
by: Mary

6 month's today my son took his life.I stumbled on this site looking for words to soothe this horrendous pain I feel. This poem helped. The words are true. He was my only child, and at 23, held so much pain in his heart. He was the reason I worked hard, smiled daily, bragged about, & loved more deeply than any other. This pain overtakes me some days. Was supposed to work at 7 a.m. & woke up at 8:57! This is not me! Nothing will ever be the same again. They expect me to be getting better but I feel like I'm melting. Was I hiding this pain from myself? The Cord struck a cord in my heart. Thank you for sharing this. We are having a bbq tomorrow at the park where his memory tree is planted. Everyone must bring a 12 x 12 scrapbook page with a special memory of my son. I'm putting them in a memory book & hope this helps. I think I will put this on the first page.

Apr 07, 2013
For all the parents new to the grief of losing a child
by: Sherry

I lost my beloved son in 1998. The cord is still binding me to him. If you can get to Compassionate Friends or find an online support group, I urge you to do so. Only other parents who have also lost a child can truly understand. Compassionate Friends is for all parents who have lost a child of any age and for any reason. The first months will be hell, I won't lie. As my Dr. told me - the pain will be horrendous. In time there is more respite between the waves of grief and longer periods in between. You are not betraying your child during those periods. The cord is there and will always be. Hugs to you all.

Mar 16, 2013
In my heart forever
by: Billy's Mom

My son passed away March 7, 2013.
I read this poem 6 days ago at his funeral.
I miss him so very much. So very much...

Jan 08, 2013
robert my son
by: Anonymous

thank you i am doing memorial for my son in may on his birthday this caught my heart and stayed thank you so much x i would like to use it if thats ok xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Oct 19, 2012
Thank you
by: olga coppin

Trying to find the right music/song the right poem for the memorial today for my son who passsed away 10 years ago on this day...I found it in this pem...thank you for sharing and letting me use your poem

Apr 05, 2012
Thank you for sharing
by: Lucy

My Son died 6 years ago today. He died on the exact day of his 30th B-Day. We are having a memorial service today and I wanted something that I could read that expresses all my inner thoughts and feelings. Reading your open did that! So this is what I will be reading tonight.

Thanks again and God Bless!

Apr 05, 2012
Thank you for sharing
by: Lucy

My Son died 6 years ago today. He died on the exact day of his 30th B-Day. We are having a memorial service today and I wanted something that I could read that expresses all my inner thoughts and feelings. Reading your open did that! So this is what I will be reading tonight.

Thanks again and God Bless!

Oct 23, 2011
thank you
by: Anonymous

From one mother to another - thank you for posting.

Oct 23, 2011
beautiful and so true
by: kay

I too had that poem given to me at my sons service ...It is true a mother and her child hold a bond like no other. I send you love and healing. Although we cannot hold our sons in our arms they live in our hearts forever. Our journey is a long and most difficult one and each of us deals with this in our own way . Our lives will never be the same. take care xxx

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