The Friend I Almost Lost Is Me.

by Rev. R.L.Moncriffe, II
(Baker, LA USA)

I truly understand that instructions are to write about someone else, but this is the closest I could come to in regard to telling you whom I almost lost.

Firstly, being the pastor of a church, I understand very well what it means to minister to individuals and families in this regard. And sometimes I can even know exactly what they're going through.

However this is not about a loss, but an "almost lost"; When an "almost lost" takes place, the signs of grief can be just as apparent as the actual death occurrence. I believe this, because I now experience these signs- these moments of grief.

About two years ago, I suffered two heart attacks. I suppose that in and of itself may not seem to be as dynamic as other actual accounts, but until 2007, I had never had a heart attack, so to me it was actual.

The interesting thing about my near death was that the attacks happened within four days of each other. At first I simply treated this experience as a sickness I suffered,(not a life altering event). But as time marched on, I would find myself, at the reading, hearing, viewing, even thinking about lost life, crying uncontrollably.

I didn't die, but I almost did. It was real and so is my grief. I'm trying to control it on my own without telling my wife, because she'll get worse than me. I pray, I sing to myself, and I play piano; these things help, and oddly, little children do too.

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Dec 04, 2009
I ALMOST LOST IS ME
by: ANN

DEAR FRIEND,
I'M SURE AT SOME POINT, MORE PEOPLE THAN YOU REALIZE HAVE COME CLOSE TO DEATH. SOME WERE AWARE OF IT. SOME BROBABLY WERE NOT. ANYTHING THAT CHANGES OUR LIFE AS WE KNOW IT, HAS A PROFOUND IMPACT IN SOME WAY.

YOU KNEW AND REMEMBERED WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU. AND YOU WILL LIVE WITH THAT EXPERIENCE EVERY DAY. I FEEL, THAT IT'S NOT SO MUCH WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO US, AS HOW WE USE THAT EXPERIENCE
TO MOLD US INTO THE PERSON WE BECOME AFTER
IT HAPPENS.

IF I UNDERSTAND RIGHT, YOU ARE A MINISTER. YOU HAVE SEEN DEATH AND GRIEF IN EVERY STAGE THERE IS. THIS PUTS YOU VERY CLOSE TO WHAT MOST OF US NEVER SEE. WE NEVER WORRY ABOUT A CAR ACCIDENT UNTIL WE HAVE ONE. THEN KNOWING IT CAN HAPPEN, WE START TO GET UPSET.

I UNDERSTAND YOU AND WHAT YOU MUST BE GOING THROUGH. BUT IT CAN BE A POSITIVE STEP IN YOUR LIFE. PERHAPS GOD BROUGHT YOU TO THE EDGE OF ETERNITY, SO YOU WOULD BE BETTER PREPARED TO DEAL WITH THE PEOPLE YOU MINISTER TO IN TIME OF NEED. USE THIS EXPERIENCE FOR STRENGTH. ASK GOD HOW HE WANTS YOU TO USE IT FOR HIS GLORY.

YOU ARE HUMAN. ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE ONE. GOD LEFT YOU HERE BECAUSE YOUR WORK ON EARTH ISN'T FINISHED YET. BLESS YOU. I WILL PRAY FOR YOU
AND MAY YOU BE ABLE TO HEAL AND MOVE FORWARD.

EVEN THOUGH OUR JOB IS TO HELP OTHERS, SOMETIMES WE OURSELVES NEED HELP AS WELL.

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