The Greatest Man I Knew

by diane egan

My Dad and I were inseparable the 5 years before he died. When the diagnosis came, I was devastated to say the least. That is when I started crying, and haven't stopped. I knew my life was over. And it was. And he died. I never left his side. My marriage fell apart, I could not enjoy anything anymore. Everyday I live in pain and sick. My father is gone. So is my life. Now my husband left. My life is over without my father. I am so sick all the time. I don't know what will happen to me now. There is no one to take care of me. I live in a grief filled sickness. I love you Dad. I wish you were here to take care of me. I am so honored that you were my father.

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Apr 18, 2014
The Greatest Man I knew
by: Doreen UK

Dianne I am so sorry for your loss of your Dad 5 years ago and also for the loss of your marriage.
If you are still finding yourself in deep grief after so many years you need to seriously make a decision to see a grief counsellor who will be able to offer you their time and skills to help you not only cope with 2 losses, but enable you to be able to move forward. You may be stuck in grief and thus feeling this awful pain. You say you are in pain all the time. Grief does cause us severe bodily pain which is affected by our emotions. Grief affects our emotions, but it is possible to get this under control so it doesn't control us. Most of us say we feel our life is over and we want to die. But in REALITY our life is not over till God says so. Since I lost my husband to cancer 2yrs. ago I don't feel like going on in life with loss of quality of life as I knew it. BUT. We have a responsibility to ourselves to put life in our days so that we can continue in life. Even if it is a little each day, that we move forward. You have sustained a great loss with not only losing your Dad, but also your husband. This is enough to tip anyone over the edge, especially if you have no support. Make a start with seeing a counsellor. Then spent time building yourself up. Make a special meal for yourself. Have some retail therapy. buy yourself some flowers and put this in a vase and admire them. Do this at least once every week or other week or even monthly. BUT DO IT. Go to the library and read a good book that you like and let it be one that will build you up and also make you laugh. Find a group where you can make friends and build on this. You will be amazed at how you will come up with many new ideas to make your world a better place to be in. I also have to take my own advice, because any one of us can slip into a rut where we lose our motivation to get back into the normal routine of living daily. WE have nothing to look forward to, and nothing to make our days better, after we lose a loved one. If you believe in God, you can find a church and worship with other people you may just meet someone feeling just like you feel and you can make a difference in each other's world.
When we are attached to our loved one's by this strong bond of Love it is so hard when we lose them. There is no shame in needing to see a counsellor to help us through this sorrow. I hope soon you will get your life back and be happy again. It is possible.

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