The ice burg that hit is melting

by Jen
(N Ireland)


After really what has to be described as an emotional and debilitating two weeks i seem to be getting on track again.

It hit hard and unexpectedly and the best thing was pouring my heart out to a good nursing colleague who has always been there for me. She text me just when i needed someone. Again these are times when i truly believe Richard is still helping me.

I also am convinced that Jules Mari and Hope are now friends that are helping me with their words and constant support. You are all always there for me and i thank you so so much sincerely.

This site amazes me with how it really encourages and supports us by giving us this opportunity..

Thank you so much,


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Nov 22, 2010
The iceburg is melting
by: Mari

You are so sweet, Jen, to say we are your friends and you are sure right about that.You encourage others so much.

It is quite possible about Richard watching over you. I often feel that my husband is near me. It is comforting.

What you experienced is normal. Sometimes we feel like we are progressing and then it feels like we are worse again. But as you said about the ice burg melting because you have a dear person who cared enough to listen.

I am so glad you feel better. God will help you along the way as you progress. And of course we are always here for you. Take care. Mari

Nov 19, 2010
by: Anonymous

"Today is Survivor's Day for our family.
Today we remember our son and brother and how much we love him.
Today we reflect on special moments, trying to engrain these stories into our minds so we can continue to share them with those who follow after. Those who will never have the privilege of knowing him.
Today is special; it knits us closer together as a family.
Surviving suicide is not for sissies.
It takes courage to face the future with love and gratitude."

May you be blessed.

~ "Shattered by Suicide"
Gracie T

Nov 19, 2010
the ice burg
by: jules

Jen - today you sounded more positive - it is true that having someone to talk to helps - I have a couple of friends that I have made since Johns death, that I can vent to - they didn't know me before, they only know the me "now", so they have no expectations of me - they have seen me go from high to low quite rapidly - then fly right back up to high again - they are there for me, as is my darling daughter.

Keep on taking those baby steps, I know sometimes it is three forward, two back, but that's the way it is.

Keep writing on this site, it is indeed a lifesaver.

Nov 18, 2010
An Irish Blessing for You


"We" will always be there because we are the only ones that can understand how debilitating grief can be. For the most part I do well but some days as today I could NOT concentrate on a single thing. Jittery clumpsy muddled in thinking. I just wanted to go home and crawl into bed and try again tomorrow. I had convinced myself it was A: too much coffee or B: something had happened to a friend or one of the kids. The harder I tried to work the more I chased my tail.
Of course it is possible I forgot to eat. (again)

You are doing wonderful despite the bad days and we all know about them. As the last leaves fall off the tree that I park my car beside. It fills me with a sadness that winter is just around the corner.

I can totally relate to Jules with the one year mark coming up this Sat. I have already decided to take Dec 6th off. If I am going to have a melt down and I don't know what to expect, I do not want to be at work when It happens.

In essence you are getting where you need to be at your pace, don't let anyone rush you. I am so glad that you have someone to Vent to. There is no way to get through this but day by day.

Really that makes the problem worse, having no one to tell this same sad tale to over and over again. Thinking that somehow it will make us feel better or someone will have a magic bean for us to plant and make it all just go away.

Keep up your inner strength and beauty for all to see it is there. And remember...

The Irish Blessing

May the road rise to meet you

May the wind be always at your back

May the sun shine warm upon your face

May the rains fall soft upon your fields

And, until we meet again

May God hold you in the palm of his hand

Nov 18, 2010
its melting

I'm glad you feel better.

All the best

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