The last one!

by L

I'm not really sure if this counts? my loss wasn't in quick succession but my loss started in 1993 when I was 11, I'm now 31...I lost my father first then in 1999 at the age of 16 I lost my sister(and best friend) after years of illness with my mum she seemed to get better but the shock came two years ago directly after two miss carriages my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer and died 5 months later leaving me the last of my immediate family.That was a year and a half ago and I'll admit that this time I'm struggling to say the least! I'm not really sure why I'm on here. I've never been on this kind if site before. Just feeling a bit lost if truth be told. I bet there's some inspiring stories out there that some of you hold to stop me feeling so desperate and sorry for myself...please share.

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Aug 22, 2013
The last one!
by: Doreen U.K.

L First let me say the you have every right to be on this site because you have lost a significant amount of your family leaving you all alone. I am sorry for your loss of your Father, sister, and now mother. This is a huge loss and would make anyone feel lost and alone. You also lost 2 babies as miscarriages. Another significant loss. You did the right thing in writing here for support because we all on this site know what you are going through. We are all facing the same type of pain from grief which is always unbearable. Talking and writing out your feelings in a journal are all therapeutic ways of healing from one's losses. You can also get good support from the right counsellor. Often pain from heavy losses overlaps and some people can't cope with this pain. A good trained counsellor would be able to hold your pain whilst you worked through other losses, in a way cushioning your pain. I had this experience and I have emerged a different person from this Healing. I am stronger for the experience of counselling some years ago which helped me cope better when I lost my husband to cancer 15 months ago. One day the pain of grief will end and we will be left with only memories that will hold us up for the rest of our lives. You will receive support here and can write back as often as you need to. You can also reply to other posts as and when you wish. You will also find healing from reading other posts of experiences that will trigger off emotions for you. Crying is grief and the release we all need from inner pain from loss of loved ones. I hope you will have better days ahead and good support from friends, family, and counsellor.

Aug 21, 2013
me too
by: Anonymous

I can relate......thank God we can't see our future. The last 10 years of my life have been a living hell. First my father, then my cousin who was like a sister and lastly my precious mother. Going on is a struggle. My faith used to be strong now I just don't know. The world goes on and I just look. I now am on strong antidepressants and anti anxiety medication. I never even took a tylenal.I am an only child 48 years old unmarried no children. When your parents die and you are an only child when your parents die 2/3 of your family is now dead. What did I ever do in this life to deserve this. I exist and tell everyone I am doing great which is a total lie. All dead to cancer. My parents lived for me and I for them now what?????? I cant pray because my prayers have never been answered so why bother.

Aug 21, 2013
I am so sorry
by: Anonymous

I can tell you that you are not alone. I too am the last one. It does take one's breath away. I sit up and think a lot about my life and how it took so many turns. I get depressed, I get happy, I get mad. I guess that is all part of being human. I am so sorry for your losses, but I am a lot like you. I feel lost. Take care my new friend.

Aug 21, 2013
Last one--L
by: Anonymous--MI

You have suffered great losses in your young life and I am sorry for your sorrow. I have lost my wonderful husband of 43 yrs nine months ago and my life is a maze of sadness, tears and questions. In all the sorrow the only true help for us is to look to God, who gave His son to die on the cruel cross to save our souls and to have the promise of eternal life in heaven with Jesus, our savior. There will be only joy in heaven--no more tears, pain, suffering or questions. We will see our loved ones again and the reunion with them will be so glorious that we cannot imagine it now. Faith in God, trust in God and following His teachings are the only REAL help we are going to find on this journey of grief. God gives us family and friends to help us in our sorrow and this is good, however God is our Solid Rock and our refuge in this time of trouble. May God grant you peace and comfort and help as you seek to follow Him.

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