The loss of my youngest daughter.

by Susan
(Indiana)


My youngest daughter died two years ago 2-24-12 from a blood clot in her lung. She was 28. I am forever broken without my sweetheart. She was a new mother, a wife, a sister, and a loving daughter. She was my go to girl, just to talk for a while. When I was ill for months, she was by my side to care for me. She came to the aid of other family members also, with her caring and loving concern,the way only she could do. My family misses her terribly, and although most have gotten on with their lives, I remain in my sorrow. I know "she wouldn't want me to shed so many tears and to be happy" again. But, how do I go through the rest of my life without my precious girl? I am lost and forever heartbroken.

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Feb 24, 2014
The loss of my youngest daughter
by: Doreen UK

Susan I am sorry for your loss of your beloved daughter to a sudden death. She was so very young. This is THE worst experience of a mother's life. The worst aspect is missing your daughter FOREVER. Not having her in your day to day life. Those anxious moments when you wish she would walk through the door and be in your world again. This is a painful aspect of death. I lost my beloved husband of 44yrs. 21 months ago to lung cancer and IT HURTS. I sometimes feel so desperate for him to come back. Every day just feels like some sort of existence.
Grief feels heavier when you also have family and friends go back to their normal lives untouched by what you are still going through. We all on this site have similar feelings of loss of another kind. Just when you need your other family and friends they are not available. I have to hide how I really feel so as to avoid any comments. We rise each day and do what we have to do and each day becomes mundane and routine. I have 3 Adult children and I couldn't bear to lose any one of them. I feel vulnerable now as if I will lose any one of them also.
Even if our loved one's would want us to go on in life it is still a slow process. Sorrow is not something one gets over anytime soon. It takes longer than we can often cope with. Life will never again be NORMAL for any of us. WE just learn in time to adapt to a new way of coping with our loss. May God comfort you in your loss and give you Hope and Peace.

Feb 24, 2014
Your daughter
by: Kate

I am asking myself the same questions over my son that died 15 months ago. I miss him so much. He was my friend as well as my son. Cared for me deeply. This genuine love is so hard to loose. I don't have an answer, I struggle just like you do. On here we understand one another. That helps because others do not know how deep the sorrow goes. My heart is with you as we struggle.

Feb 24, 2014
Loss of daughter
by: Michelle

Its 3am 2/24. 2years since the loss of your daughter and my second birthday without mine. I lost my 22 year old daughter just over 13 months ago. I am also trying to figure out how to do thins thing called life. Most will get up with a smile, happy to be alive and all I want it to be with Megan. She was my reason I breathed. There are no more smiles, nothing to look forward to and takes all I have to get through each day. I'm sorry and unfortunately have found there are no words except know that though we do not walk side by side, we do walk down the same painful path. I exist, nothing more. Im so tired. I wake up every night with that sick feeling in my stomached. Life has knocked us down and I personally do not care to get back up. Hugs

Feb 24, 2014
The loss of your daughter
by: Lorraine

I am so, so very sorry for your loss. I feel your pain as we just lost our dear Son in November - the 23rd 2013. Brad sounds very much like your daughter, caring for his parents so much & for everyone. Always there to help. Brad was 54 years old. Still had a long life to live, so we hoped. Two years ago he got cancer & suffered in such horrendous pain from 5 different cancers. Never had a remission. Our hearts broke for him. I am finding it difficult getting over seeing him in such pain& for the loss of him. He kept saying he was glad it was him & not his Dad & I. I wished it had been me instead of him. We miss him so much & I know you are the same. I will never be the same again without my Brad. My heart goes out to you. May the Lord comfort & be with you. Take care & God bless.

Feb 23, 2014
I know your pain
by: Cynthia

Hello Susan, My heart goes out to you. I lost my son James almost 3 years ago to a blood clot in his lungs as well. It was sudden and such a shock. He was 3 months away from his 30th birthday and 5 months away from getting married. As I write to you I still cannot believe that I have to live the rest of my life without my son. I am doing my best to learn how to live with the loss but it is so hard. I cry everyday and will probably cry everyday for the rest of my life. He was my buddy, we talked everyday. I miss him so. I met a wonderful mom on this site that lost her daughter. She helps me to get through each day. I am blessed with a wonderful husband, my other son and a beautiful Grand Daughter. I am trying my best to live in the moment. I hope you have support from family and friends. We cannot travel this journey alone, I have tried and it is too difficult. We need the support of others, especially others who have lost a child. We understand each others pain. Take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself. If you would like to contact me directly my email is:
Cynthia.thompson@norcalgold.com
My prayers are with you,
Cynthia

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