by machelle shumate
(lexington, ky, usa)

May 21, 2014 was a strange day by all accounts. I remember the sky opening up and spewing rain. So much so, that I felt the need to videotape it. I couldn't believe how strong the drops were. I hadn't been home very long when I received a call from my Aunt telling me, "Your Dad has been in a real bad accident on the mower. We don't know much, but the ambulance is on its' way". I remember trying to catch my breath and calm her down by letting her know that Dad always wears his seat belt and, if anyone can make it, he can. Waiting was brutally hard. I screamed, cried, begged God not to take my Daddy, and screamed and cried some more. I called several times trying to get someone, anyone, to tell me what was going on. Nobody knew or could tell me anything. Then, I got the call. My brother simply said "Dad's gone". Those two words will forever echo in my head. I wailed so loudly that someone might have mistook me for a wounded or dying animal. I don't remember much after that. The shock had consumed me mentally and physically. It had to be a horrible joke. It had to have been a bad dream. It just couldn't be true. My Dad was master of all things. He could do anything. He was strong as a bear. He was in good health for a 67 year old man. How could my Superman be gone? I was and am more devastated than words could ever express. I have been in a fog ever since. Despondent most days. He was my world. We were best friends who shared every thought and feeling. Conversation came so easily for us because we shared everything. There was no such thing as an off limit topic. I have never had that kind of connection to another human being. Ever. I don't know how to live without him.


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Sep 18, 2014
I lost my Superman too
by: Susana

I lost him on March 11th, one week exactly before his 90th bday. He had dementia and developed pneoumonia. It is still very hard for me. Sometimes I feel that it's all a dream. I used to tell him "the only superman I know is my dad!" and he loved it.

Sep 16, 2014
stay strong
by: Anonymous

This touched me so much. I lost my father on the 3rd of May. He was hit by a bus. Right in front of our house. I rushed him to a hospital, but he passed away. He was my Superman as well. I love him so much, and there is so much I need to tell him. I still can't believe that he is gone. I'll pray for you. We will get through this.

Sep 03, 2014
by: Anonymous

Michelle, I share your pain 100%. My own father was taken in an aircraft crash in March this year.

Neither of us had time to say goodbye. Didn't have a chance to tell them how much we loved them, or how much we appreciated everything they've done for us. No chance to prepare for their deaths.

My words of comfort to you: he knew you loved him. And he loved you. Unconditionally. There was no long, drawn out illness. He would have been immeasurably proud of you. & would want you to be as happy as you can be. It's the hardest thing you'll ever have to go through. But you'll make it. And you'll never forget him.

Sep 01, 2014
by: Doreen UK

Machelle what an unbearable tragic accident. It is one of the worst feelings ever to know someone has had an accident and you go through the stress of pleading with God to make all things right and to not take your loved one away.
I can remember this feeling well when my husband of 44yrs was told the news. "You have a rare and aggressive cancer which is incurable, inoperable, and terminal. I cried and screamed in that room and saw my life pass so fast before me like a bad dream. The worst news ever and feeling so helpless and hopeless. Pleading with God to save him and hoping God would. I lost him to this cancer 2yrs. ago and life is still a daily struggle. Now facing ill health myself, I don't have him here now when I need him the most.
Our men folk are our supermen and we can't go on without them. It has been a tough battle, but I am still only coping ONE DAY AT A TIME. I felt as if my world was blown up and I felt so injured, by grief. It takes time but you will find your way back into life. It is the restructuring that is difficult. Do it ONE DAY AT A TIME. Don't look too far ahead, otherwise grief will swallow you up. I find my strength in God and my will to go on each day with His guidance and strength. I am sorry for your loss.

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