the love of my life

by frank
(new york)

on oct 23 2006 while i was at work my son called me he said hurry home mom has stopped breathing.i live in new york and there was work being done on the tracks of the train. i take home it took me over an hour to get home by that time my son had called for help and took my wife to the hospital. when i got there some friends were there with my son and he was crying i saw the doc and he said that he didn't think she would make it. she had a stroke to the brain i had her brought to a better hospital and they operated on her i thought she would be ok because the doctor said it looked good for three days i held her hand praying she would be ok she was in a coma but the third day the doctor started taking tests to see if there was any improvement there was wasn't they took off the breathing machine and her heart stopped i was never so alone in my whole life like i was then and after six years i still feel that way

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May 31, 2012
by: Tom

I understand!! It's been 5 years since I lost my Tina and I think part of me died with her on that very sad night when she went to heaven. I am thankful to GOD that we had 31 good years together,two sons and now 5 grandchildren. She was in a wheelchair for 18 years and always told me that she would walk again. She said that she would be "walking in heaven" and indeed she is!!

May 31, 2012
Taking them off of the ventilator
by: Anonymous

I understand perfectly!! I also had to take my wife off of the ventilator because she had a "sepsis" or infection in her entire body due to her Myotonic Dystrophy. It was one of the hardest decisions that I ever had to make in my life!! I discussed it with my sons,but they said that their mom would not want to be kept going on a machine. I had to do if for HER,ME and our OUR SONS but it broke my heart!! I will NEVER be the same again without her???

May 31, 2012
Does it ever get better?
by: Julie

Frank, I am so sorry you have had to suffer so terribly for 6 years. I lost my Charlie almost 2 months ago and I feel like I will be this way forever. Posts like yours just confirm that for me. I keep coming back to this site looking for answers. It has been helpful, but no one seems to know what to do. Maybe their are some people who heal after the loss of there love, but because they are better they move on?

May 30, 2012
Life Is Hard Without Them
by: TrishJ

I don't think we ever get over losing our soul mates. The years go by....we get up every morning but part of us stopped living when they left.
I've been putting too much pressure on myself to "move on." It'll be 18 months for me in a few days that I lost my husband. Some days it seems like it happened just yesterday......some days it seems like it's been 10 years since I've heard his voice.
I don't like too much about this life without him. I have three wonderful grandsons (all very young) and two children that I'm very proud of. Our lives are not the same without him. All we can do is our best.
God bless.

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