The Man of My Dreams

by Kim Harding
(Phoenix Az)

On March 5,2012 I met the man of my dreams. After searching all my life and spending alot of time alone, I finally found Mr. Perfect. We only got to share four short months together. He passed 7 days ago on July 13, 2012. I never had anyone who was close to me die before especially someone I was romanticly involved with. I feel like we were cheated out of our time together. Now I feel so many emotions that it's stressing me and my world is every way but up. Pain, Sadness, Anger, Loneliness, Devastation, Abandoned, Empty. How do I get thru this? My life will never be the same ever. You will be in my heart forever,Will. I will always love you.

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Aug 09, 2012
I can relate
by: Anonymous

I also lost the man of my dreams July 7 due to a car accident.. Someone cut him off and he lost control.. We were together for a bit over 4 years and he was my everything.. Absolutely perfect for me, for eachother.. I had my life planned with him in it. He was a busy guy and I also feel cheated out because I was supposed to be with him forever and he was takin away at 21 years old... My heart is broken and sometimes I feel like I'm suicidal because he was my only person I could rely on.. But he would never want me to hurt myself so I'm trying to live day by day.. I feel for you..

Jul 31, 2012
thank u
by: samantha

I lost my husband on july 12,2012 one day before u lost your's and we had just gotten married April 21,2012 we been together for two years but my whole world is torn apart we did everything together this is the worst feeling i have ever had and it doesnt feel like it gets easier to me it gets harder

Jul 24, 2012
Dear Kim and Ted
by: Jo

Dear Ted - thank you for your kind thoughts. You are so right, you and Ron, Kim and her partner, me and my partner, we were all so lucky to have such a connection, such depth. We feel cheated at losing a wonderful future with the love of our life. Our sense of loss is immense. We had them for such a short a time but we loved them and they loved us a lifetime's worth. Just like you Ted, I comfort myself with the thought that my beloved is with me all the time in spirit and that we will be reunited. Take care of yourself Ted, that is what Ron would want most of all until you are together again. Dear Kim, remember that you made your partner very happy for the time you were together, your bond with him cannot be broken. Take care.

Jul 23, 2012
I understand
by: Ted

Kim nd Jo. I so understand what you are both going through. I lost my partner almost 4 months ago - he was my best friend, my soul mate, my eternal love and we were looking at sharing the rest of our lives together. We had known each other for 4 years and had been living together for 7 months. It is true what they say - the death of a loved one is not a singular event - there is also the death of the hopes, dreams, expectations and plans for the future that also die. Keep in mind we all shared a love so deep and commitment with our companions and that can never be taken away from us - Ron and I often spoke to each other about the fact that we shared more in our short time together than some people share in 50 years of togetherness - little did we know the brevity of our own time together. My partner died suddenly (went into a coma due to major organ failure and I had to make the decision for disconnect from life support) - 1 day from initial hospitalization until coma. I will never get over the emotions of sitting with him as he took his last breath and holding his hand between my two hands as his life gradually slipped away and his hand grew cold - the last kiss, the private moment and then turning and walking out of the room where we had our last conversation - the planning for his memorial service and seeing him in the coffin prior to cremation realizing I will never see him again in this life. It is, and will continue to be, very difficult. However, I realize that he would want me to move on and not be stuck in an emotional trap. I struggle daily with this, cry at the drop of a hat, but the best therapy for me is what my counselor (yes, you need to try that route for support) has told me - keep a daily diary of events and thoughts and keep a daily notation of at lest 3 things to be thankful for. At first it was hard to find things to be thankful for - but they will come to your. I find it very healing, and very emotional, but it helps a bit... My one greatest hope is that I will see Ron "on the other side" biggest fear is that it will not happen...

Take care and know that you are not alone.

Jul 21, 2012
The Man of My Dreams
by: Dee England

Kim I am so sorry for the loss of The Man of your Dreams. You are facing the worst form of Grief. It is the first stages and you expressed all the feelings well of Raw Grief that we are all going through. It is the worst pain you will ever go through. You have to go through this one day at a time. Even one day at a time is HELL. You may benefit from seeing a bereavement counsellor to help you through your grief. It isn't fair. Life isn't fair that you didn't get a chance to get some sort of future going. I have just lost my husband of 44yrs. to cancer. I am devastated. Try and get as much support as you can to help you through the difficult days ahead. You will cry and cry and cry and your life will be turned upside down for a long time. It hurts so much. WE all know what you are going through. I hate waking up each new day. There is nothing to look forward to. May the days ahead be easier for you than it is for me at the moment.

Jul 20, 2012
Dear Kim
by: Jo

Dear Kim, I simply had to send a message to you. I met the man of my dreams 4 years ago and after 18 months he was diagnosed with cancer. I nursed him until he passed away 10 weeks ago. Kim, I feel I understand some of what you are going through. Just like you I feel so cheated at losing the best thing that ever happened to me. Most of all I feel so sad for my darling because he had so much to live for. He was so happy that we found each other and he was looking forward to our future. I don't understand why this happened to me and my lovely man or to you Kim and your dear man. I try to comfort myself with the fact that he and I did meet even though it was far too short a time. You and I understand that when it comes to love, you do not measure it in length of time but in depth and the connection between you. My darling man and I loved a lifetime's worth in the short time we had. I am so sorry for your loss Kim and empathise so very much. Please know somebody here in England understands the grief and agony you are going through. Bless you and take care.

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