The most loving dad

by Kcd
(Alexandria va)

My dad died unexpectedly in February 2013.
He went into the hospital with severe stomach pains.
He was in the hospital for approximately 24 hrs and
then his heart just stopped. He was placed on a ventalator and
eventually his organs shut down and he went septic.
His heart also stopped 4 more times. The dr kept
Telling us that they did not know what was wrong nor
did they know why his heart just stopped.
My dad was only 71 and we were all there with him
when we took him off life support. We did not
do an autopsy and I am totally regretting it.
I wish I would have asked for it so we would
know why his heart just stopped.
I miss my dad more every day and regret not
Knowing his exact cause of death.
My dad was the most loyal, honest and patient
man ever. He leaves behind my mom- they were married
for 37 years. Dad- I love you and miss you.

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Aug 18, 2013
So sorry
by: Anonymous

I lost my father to sudden cardiac arrest in January. He was fine one day and then gone the next. He and my mother would have been together 50 years this fall. My world turned upside down that day and at times the grief still almost unbearable, but I have begun to accept it and understand that I must continue with my life each and every day. I hope you are on the road to healing and I wish you comfort and peace. I am in the same boat.

Jun 03, 2013
Really Understand.
by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry. Your story is almost identical to mine. I lost my Dad in January this year, he was exactly two weeks off his 73rd Birthday. It was very unexpected. He died of a stomach aneurysm. He was my Mum's main carer and they had been married for 53 years.
I miss him. I wish I could sit and chat to him now.
I hope our Dad's have made friends in heaven.


May 24, 2013
The most loving dad
by: Doreen U.K.

Kcd I am sorry for your loss of your dad to a sudden death. It doesn't matter how old we are we will always miss our parents when we lose them. I just lost my husband, (married 44yrs.) 1yr. ago to cancer and it is a loss that is unbearable. Your mom will be in the same place as me and her grief will be different from yours losing a father. You will all need good support and I hope you have family and friends who can surround you now with this support and care so that you get through it as it is a long hard road of grief. My husband was the most loving and hard working man. He worked with Asbestos and this killed him. This caused a tumour to develop over years.
I didn't know that the family can decide whether to have an autopsy? I thought the hospital made this decision as a requirement. It is so difficult when one has to make a quick decision and not know whether it is the right one. You may just have to live with the choice you made realising you made it for the right reasons. You probably didn't want your father's body to be cut up even though he was not alive. It is somewhat of an invasion. I don't think I would have liked this done. My husband died of an Industrial disease but yet didn't need an autopsy. Just a coroner to record the verdict as not being foul play. My husband died a cruel painful slow death over 3yrs. Take comfort in knowing your father didn't suffer. It does help your grief if you can find a positive reason for accepting your father's death as being of natural consequences. In time you will accept his death without questioning. It is your grief that is unsettling you just now and needing answers, even if there isn't any. But I do know how you feel? I hope that the days ahead will find your family coping with your loss. May you all receive the comfort and support you need to help you get through this difficult time.

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