The Pain Hurts!

My friend, Girma Nigussie, 35, was suddenly hospitalized for colon cancer for about seven months in 2010. He fled Ethiopia due to political unrest in the country, and lived under extremely difficult conditions in Djubuti before he came to San Diego in 1999. Girma was deeply religious and was known for his generosity to needy people. His hard work has been examplar among the Ethiopian community in San Diego.

I met Girma about six years ago and we became very close friends. We always supported and encouraged each other. We cooked and ate together, helped people, and started a church together. He played keyboard for our new church choir.

When the doctors told him that he had some weeks to live, I decided to be by his bedside, and became more deeply involved in helping him. Surprisingly, he was so at peace and encouraged us all to praise God for his life.

Despite his hope to live longer, he passed away on January 1, 2011 at 6:00am. At the beginning, I was shocked in disbelief. Later, I was angry at the unfairness of his untimely death. Losing a very close friend in a foreign country is so hard to overcome. It hurts!

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Feb 15, 2011
by: Bahru Bayisa

Thank you so much for the encouraging words of wisdom. Girma's family and friends are coping well with the grief. I also want to suggest that trying to explain God's purposes in human suffering may not necessarily help the sufferers. In stead, I learned through experience that people who deeply care and share our pain by being by our side quietly can really help us cope with grief.

Jan 20, 2011
The pain hurts
by: Anonymous

I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. I know you must be going through a most difficult time.

Reading your post, it occurred to me that your friend was a man of God and he is with God now. To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. You will find comfort in knowing that those who serve God as your friend did have a reward in heaven.

It takes time to heal from a loss and I know it hurts. You need time. We take baby steps toward healing. This board is a wonderful place to come to and say what is on your mind and heart. We all care. So keep posting. Find comfort in the scriptures. Someday you will see your friend again. God bless you.

Jan 20, 2011
Wonderful he knew the Lord!
by: Cindy

Although our pain hurts so bad, and the grief is unbearable, it is a comfort to know that they knew the Lord and they are in Heaven with Him. I lost my husband two months ago for being married almost 35 years, and I miss him so very much. The only comfort I get is that I know his heart with with the Lord and he is waiting at Jesus' feet waiting for me... I pray for his family and that he is so far away from them. Praise God for a Godly man when he had such a difficult life!

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