The passing of my mom

by Jeremy Lizzotte
(Fairfield, Maine USA)

I am 23 years old, my name is Jeremy. In July of '08, I was in the hospital for 2 weeks due to pancreatitis, and my mom was there every day. She worked at the hospital I was at, but she was on vacation. Even on vacation she would still go to her workplace to visit me all day, every day. She was such an incredible person.

After I got out of the hospital, she went in. She was diagnosed with stage 4 Pancreatic cancer. They started her on chemo and and radiation. That started helping and the cancer didn't seem to hurt so bad.

For Christmas, she and I and my aunt and uncle drove down to Alabama to stay with my other aunt
(We live in Maine). While we were down there, we were both in a lot of pain. I went into the ER for 2 days for another pancreatitis issue.

When we got back, she went back to the hospital, she needed more chemo and radiation. From the start of that treatment, her body didn't handle it well. She collapsed on the ground, and I had to rush her to the ER. They kept her for a couple weeks and then brought her to a rehabilitation center for a month.

She got home and she was doing fine using a walker she had to wheel around. By October, she was bed-ridden and wasn't able to get out of bed.

Mom passed away October 27th, a year and 2 months after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. The sad thing is I am an only child, and my girlfriend is having a baby in Febuary. I wish every day that my mom could have met my daughter. She was so excited when I told her about the pregnancy, but she passed away 4 months before the baby is due.

I hope after reading this, this helps me get over the death of my mom, because there isn't a day that goes by that my eyes dont tear up, thinking about her.

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Mar 03, 2011
Thought I was the only one
by: Staci

Im 25 now and I lost my mom when I was about to turn 23. Me being the only child it really hurt. She was my everything then my father passed away three years later. And now im a mom to a three month old baby boy.

May 22, 2010
MY MOM PASSED TOO
by: Anonymous

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS, BUT I TOO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL FOR I LOSS MY MOM APRIL 2 2010 AND MY HEART IS SO BROKEN AND I FEEL SO ALONE

Dec 31, 2009
coping
by: Angie

Hi Jeremy !

I'm so sorry you lost your mother so early .
I lost my father a few months ago, but I'm 35 and he was 79, so it's not the same as for you, yet its very sad.

I want to share something a friend told me when my dad passed away . He said that we should try to remember the things we liked most about the person we lost, and if possible adopt them into our own life and being. In that way this person will live on through us.

For example, your mum showed you an enourmous love, watching you when you were at the hospital .
You can keep this love and develop it and learn how to give love to other people and in that way she will live in you.

I found this thought very helpful.
I wish you a happy New Year and good luck with the baby.
Love, Angie

Dec 28, 2009
My Love Going to You
by: Anonymous

Jeremy;

My son died of pancreatic cancer last Thanksgiving. He was my only child. My heart goes out to you, as I feel the loss you feel. My days don't go a minute with out grieving for my son. I will never ever be a Granma for anyone. My Christmases are not fulfilling any longer. I wake at times and just go though the day as a zombie, knowing I have to keep moving.

I Thank the lord I do have a new husband of 5 years. This is my only life. My heart goes out to you, My arms are around you, If you need a Step-Mom I can reach out to you. I have an Uncle who lives in Acton, Maine, if this means anything.

You can contact me here. My son is Robert Eugene Lawson--- 08/14/69 to 11/28/08---- Las Vegas, Nev.

As you go through each emotion, you become a survivor. Each feeling is yours; nobody can tell you how you feel, every body does it their own way. I had to go to a doctor to get help. Nobody feels the way you do, Nobody can say they understand. To each his own. Mine was mine and yours is your. My arms and heart out to you, my friend.

My Prayers to you,
Nadine Collins

Dec 28, 2009
TO JEREMY IN MAINE
by: ANN

Dear Jeremy,
I'm very sorry for your loss. Losing a mother is extremely painful. I too lost my mother 5 months ago to cancer. There is no way you can put a time limit on how long to mourn or grieve.

I CRY OVER THINGS THAT AREN'T EVEN ASSOCIATED WITH MY MOM'S PASSING. I JUST CRY FROM THE EMPTY FEELING.

YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOUR MOTHER'S MEMORIES IN YOUR HEART, AND SHE'LL BE WATCHING OVER YOU.

Keep a journal or notes in a special book about your mom. Write her letters about what is happening in your life, just as if you are telling her what you want her to know. This has helped me. I will pray for you and may God give you the strength and healing you need.

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