The Plan Worked!
A few days ago I posted my plan for a dinner party on the first anniversary of Kent's death. Just wanted to report that it was everything and more I could have hoped for to get through that bad day. It was truly wonderful. Everyone got on board with the idea of not only remembering my Sweetie but also celebrating my first year as a widow. Lots of laughs, a bit of wine and cards and flowers galore. We had my homemade lasagne for dinner, one of Kent's favorite meals, and I can modestly say it was my best effort ever. Kent must have been in the kitchen when I was preparing it. Yes it was a bittersweet day and yes I cried after everyone left but for the first time I cried out of both sadness and joy. I would highly recommend making a celebration of the first anniversary of your loved one's passing. You will be surprised and comforted by the way your friends respond. What I dreaded to be an awful day turned into a gentle and loving time. In fact, everyone wants to celebrate Kent's death anniversary again next year, both to keep his memory alive and to continue to support me. I am humbled. Kent - you and I are truly blessed.