There Can Be Happiness Again

by MeMe Nettles

I'm MeMe and since the 80's we hadn't experienced any losses in our family or anyone close. In 95 I met the guy of my dreams but I was 2 yrs younger than he was so we took our time and we got engaged my senior year in 98. I moved 2nd semester to finish school in Florida and he was moving to MS where he was accepted into the engineering field but we knew we loved each other. He drove me to Florida and when he got ready to leave he pulled out, stopped the car, got and just stared at me smiling without saying a word then he got back in and drove off. 2 weeks later he went to move his things in his new place and had to come back to return the truck he borrowed. On his way back he hit a water puddle and hydroplaned when came down he was on the wrong side of the road and was hit head on by an oncoming vehicle then his truck exploded so we had to get his dental records to identify him. My mom called me at 2am to tell me that and I just hit the floor. I waited for him everyday thinking maybe it wasn't him like maybe some stole the car and wrecked. It was hard not being able to see a body. If I had known that day was the last day I would ever see him again I would've held on for dear life. I couldn't sleep, eat or even smile it felt like someone was stabbing me in the heart. I've always sickly so I was told I could never have kids which was fine because I didn't want any. In 03 I met another guy named Bryant and I didn't think anyone could ever be like Tony because he spoiled me rotten and was so sweet but I was wrong Bryant was amazing. We got engaged in 04 and married in 05. In July of 07 one day I was cramping no matter what I took the pain didn't ease so I went to the hospital and had a baby girl! I named her Heaven A'marri. Needless to say Bryant and I were in major shock and although we didn't want kids we loved her instantly. My life just couldn't get any better then my mom fell ill and died in August. 6 mnths after that my grandma, and 7 months after that my dad. For a year no one else passed and I thought God had said no more! Right after the year then my daughter died from an allergic reaction to some juice and Bryant and I took it hard but we still had each other and he died 3 mths later. Heaven was 2 yrs old and Bryant was 32 yrs old. It's been 3 yrs now and I was 29 when that happened. By us being so young I didn't get around to getting insurance and I lost everything because he was the bread winner while I stayed home taking care of the house and raising my own child. I had to move into a funeral home because I didn't have money or anymore close relatives. I took some time to get some 1 on 1 with God because I felt like I was going to lose my mind. I'm back in school but my life will never be the same. It's not something you get over but everyday it gets a little easier to cope with. Not 1 day goes by that I don't think of my family and of course I still shed tears from time to time.

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Jun 19, 2012
Thanks EVERY ONE of you!
by: MeMe

Hi everyone! I must say I'm not sure how I stumbled on to this site but I am so glad I did. Thanks for all of the beautiful comments. I don't like to send 1 big thank you because you all individually reached out to me & every one was special to me but I'm having problems getting through this site. I start my day with a motivational song & prayer today started my day with your motivational comments! We all have been hit hard and everyday is a struggle some days more than others but I remember when it was a struggle just to make it through the next minute. After Bryant died I knew my life would never be the same but I didn't know to what degree! It's been 3 yrs & at 1st everyone was so supportive but the more time passed I found myself by myself. I turned 33 last month and no one remembered but the reality is to truly understand what we're going through they have to have loss someone close as well. I welcome and would love to hear from anyone who wants to connect with me! My email is

Jun 18, 2012
Wish you all the best
by: Diego

Meme your story touch me so deeply you cannot imagine...I lost my brother two weeks ago, he was only 26, he died from a heart attack "sudden death"...I feel devastated, life have no sense anymore, he was my best friend, we were so close, I miss him so much...the pain is unbearable at this moment, it feels like a movie, a bad movie…but if you find peace after all you have been through, then there’s hope for me too… if someday you want to talk or something this is my e-mail: , wish you all the best.

Jun 18, 2012
by: Molly


I had to write this to first give you my deepest sympathy for all the loss that you have gone through and secondly to hold out my hat to you for your courage and strength. I know sharing your story will help alot of people. I lost my son 11 months ago and feel that I just want to die. I wish for it everyday, I am not sure how you are able to be so strong but I admire you and feel that God must be giving you all the strength and courage that you have to continue on. I pray he will keep you strong and send some blessings your way.

Jun 18, 2012
There Can Be Happiness Again
by: Doreen England U.K.

MeMe Thank you for your inspiring story, but also my deepest sympathies for all your loss of family.
You lost your first husband, then remarried then lost your Mum, grandmother, Dad, then your baby daughter, and then your husband and all when you were 29 years.
You are entitled to feel as if you would never recover from all these losses. You are such a brave Lady to experience this and then tell your story so well in such a loving way without bitterness but giving HOPE to all of us on this website saying THERE CAN BE HAPPINESS AGAIN.
You are a truly inspiring woman and beautiful with it to come through all this with such a beautiful attitude.
God Bless You! May Life be good to you ALWAYS! from now on and may the angels guide you and God smile on you and be with you throughout your life and grant you PEACE and HAPPINESS. Best Wishes

Jun 18, 2012
by: Helen

MeMe, what a roller coaster road of grief you 've had over the years.
My heart goes out to you.
You are an inspiration to me, as she are a long way along the road to recovery.
You seem to have reconciled and accepted your true feelings and are now back studying.
I wish you love, light and happiness for the future

Jun 18, 2012
I am at a loss for words
by: Rose

God bless you and keep you. I read and could not believe the heartache of loss. And then, I thought-she knows..She knows that when she is called home, they will all be there waiting for her. God is arranging her party and needed her guests to arrive early!
I am not making light, I just don't know how else to cope with loss. I lost my daughter last year, and some days the tears do not stop. Your faith is wonderful and I am grateful for your posting. Please email me and keep in touch-you lift my spirits! I am at:

Jun 18, 2012
Really feel for you
by: Karimi

I cannot begin to understand what your life must have been like. I do not think I would have as much strength as you do.You are a very very strong woman. I lost my mum in January and just thinking about it makes my heart skip bits. I miss her soo much. but when I read posts like yours, I believe that I should thank God and look upto people like you.

I will say a prayer for you

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