Three years....

by Vickie

This is my third xmas without my daughter, Alicia. It has been a very difficult road. Their are days that are better than others but I am better than three yr's ago. I wasn't going to post anything..but I decided to log on and I read a couple new posts. I felt I NEEDED to write something. I do Not have the answers for anyone but I wanted to share how I am coping. Why horrible things happen to us I am not sure- Life simply is not always fair. I wish I could tell you that in the end it will all balance out-make sense. I believe things just happen. No one is trying to punish us-it is just an accident/life. I am doing better this xmas than the last two. I know I will Never get over losing my daughter. She was only 26. I am doing the best I know how. I have come to realize that I Don't make my life any more complicated than need be. If I am Not up to something-I don't do it. I can only hope that my friends and family can understand. I can't worry about everything..I need to take care of myself. I Hope that those of you out there who are going through your first Xmas without your loved one-just know that your pain is real and hopefully with time-it will lighten. We all grieve differently. God Bless All of You at this very difficult time. p.s. Remember we All care and understand this very trying time. Your not Alone here.

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Jan 01, 2012
New year thoughts
by: Anonymous

This is my second Christmas without my son.
He was 26 when he died with so much to look forward to.
My husband and I miss him every day ,but there are times of the year especially Christmas when it all seems so wrong.
We try to do "positive" things but feel we now have to live a different life. It is the one thing we can not put right.
Out thoughts are with anyone who follow a similar path.

Dec 27, 2011
by: Lori's mom

This is my second Christmas without my daughter. I still miss her as much as last year. We all do the best we can with the Holidays. Being with family helps even if they don't fully understand. I wish everyone a peaceful and loving New Year.
Be kind to yourself.

Dec 26, 2011
I love you Jimmy.
by: Anonymous

I know how you feel, this is our 1st Christmas without our oldest son. He was 34 & we lost him on 5/5/11 in a motorcycle accident. My daughter made a beautiful book of pictures chronicaling his life. Brought many tears to my eyes. I know he is not gone, he is here. Have an amazing husband, his father and 2 other beautiful children, He is watching from above & knows how much he is missed & loved. God bless & know that others know how you feel!!!

Dec 25, 2011
my first xmas without my son james
by: Anonymouscynthia

I lost my son of 29 years in april. I am so heartbroken. I feel he was robbed, he had so much to live for , he loved life and made me feel so special. I am having a very rough day. My husband and are visiting the coast, hoping it would help getting away, but the pain never goes away. I did say this morning that perhaps next year this time I may feel a bit more piece within myself. I pray for all the moms today and most days that are going through our pain. If you would like to respond to me, my email is: we just have to hang in and feel blessed for the time we had with our beautiful child. Take care and best wishes.

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