Tina from Chicago
I lost my Mom in March 2011. She was a wonderfully human woman. I miss her everyday and wonder when will I get back to "normal." Then I realize there will never be a normal for me, because my normal included her. Today I am feeling blessed that I knew her, blessed about our relationship and how good it was, blessed that she took the time to raise me and especially blessed to know a Mother's love. I had a friend that I had been avoiding spending time with since my Mom's funeral because she seemed to not understand the love between a Mother and Daughter. She was so detrimental to my life at the time of loss. She questioned how I could care for my Mom at home and "watch her die." I had felt that was so insensitive at the time because I was doing it out of love and trying to give my Mom what she had asked of me. I saw my ex-friend for the first time since March yesterday, The very first thing she said to me was "I saw some dresses yesterday, that would fit your Mom." I just started to cry and I asked her not to ever talk to me about my Mom. How could she possible think it was a good idea to talk about clothing that my Mom is not alive to wear? She was never ever close to my Mom. They never had a "relationship." I can not imagine what that was about. I have decided that some friends don't make it to the other side of your grief and that is OK.
I read the steps of grieve again today and I just wanted to say to all of those like me trying to get through this loss "keep on keeping on." Visit this site when you need to and we will all be healed one by one, day by day.
I LOVE YOU MOM!!!!