To those I love and those who love me

by Donna

I was trying to go through some of the papers that have piled up in our room since Bryan got sick and I came across the obituary that they gave to all of the people that came to his viewing. I had forgotten that it has a poem in it:

To those I love and those who love me.

When I am gone, Release me. Let me go. I have so many things to see and do. You mustn't tie yourself to me with tears. Be happy that we had so many years. I gave you my love. You can only guess how much you gave to me in happiness. I thank you for the love you each have shown. But now it's time I traveled on alone. So grieve a while for me if grieve you must. Then let your grief be comforted by trust. It's only for a while that we must part. So bless the memories within your heart. I won't be far away for life goes on. So if you need me, call and I will come. Though you can't see or touch me I'll be near-and if you listen with your heart, you'll hear all of my love around you soft and clear. And then, when you must come this way alone, I'll greet you with a smile and "Welcome Home".

When I picked out the package at the funeral home I didn't even know that the poem was inside, all I saw was the color and design on the front. It's almost like Bryan is talking to me, but I don't know how to release him. I do believe that when it is my turn to go to heaven that Bryan will be standing by God to welcome me home. Oh how I look forward to that day. My girls get upset when they hear me say that, I assured them that I won't do anything stupid, but I can't wait to be with their dad. Maybe I shouldn't say that but that is how I feel. I love and miss him so much. I know they miss him too, but I keep trying to tell them that it's not the same. Yes, he was their daddy, but he was my husband, lover, best friend, my soulmate. We were only truly happy when we were together. I miss you baby, and I can't wait to be with you again, this time for eternity.

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Aug 27, 2011
My mom
by: Tct

My mom was 46 she passed a few months ago I was at the funeral when someone handed me this poem .. It was Luke she was almost speaking this poem from the coffin. The pain is so strong that I don't feel like going on, but god is putting a peace upon me and my family...

And he will put a peace upon you too, just ask him . And our loved ones are always with us I. Our hearts :-)

Dec 05, 2010
Holding on
by: Zoe

After John died the doctor gave me sleeping pills
I remember pouring the entire bottle into my hand
There was nothing to stop me
Except what if by doing this I could not be with John
I could not take the chance that my last breath here
Will be my first look into his eyes

I cannot do this without him
I don't want to

So I put my head down, take one breath one step
One day at a time.

Remember this is not acceptance this is adjustment.

You have knowledge that most people do not
And you have a perspective that only a widow
Can have, you look forward, because you have no choice,
But your heart stays in the past,

Please also remember it ok to be selfish with your
Grief, there is no loss greater or less, but it is individual.

You have to have time for your grief if you are
To help your children with theirs.

Do only what you can
And write here when you need to
We are always here

Dec 04, 2010
to those I love and those who love me
by: Jules

The words in that obituary are so beautiful, they say how I am feeling most of the time.

Like HH I don't feel that I want to be gone with John, I want him here, with me. Our life here on earth is what I want back - though I know I will never get it like that again, so one breath, one step at a time, we will all make it through.
Take care

Dec 04, 2010
To our soul mates
by: Colleen

Soul mate does not give justice to how we feel about our husbands. I too can not wait to be with my husband for all eternity. Know that Bryan is waiting for you he went before so he could prepare a home for you and him.

Keep the faith.

Dec 04, 2010
The highs and lows of grief...

Let me admit being half logical from my father that I never wanted to be with Paul in heaven. I guess that that is against the norm for grieving.
I did and do want him here, though I know it is impossible. We are "adjusting" to life without them and it is sooooo hard. I can see how your daughters get freaked with you saying such things.
After all in our weakened state of mind they take us literally and must worry about what state of mind we truly are in.

You are doing well in the long walk of grief. Surviving the ups and downs of this awful roller coaster ride. Tell your daughters that you are trying to survive your loss and are making it one breath one step one day at a time....

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