Today is the fifth anniversary of my Mothers death

by Anne
(Vancouver Island Canada)

Five years and nine days ago, I would have what would be my last conversation with my mother. A few hours after we spoke she experienced a bleed in her brain and became comatose. She died 9 days later in a palliative care unit. My daughter and I moved into the care unit and lived there for the duration, she was never alone. My Mum was a pretty great person, not perfect (none of us are) but a really good mother and grandmother. It took me about two years before I could speak of her without crying. It is still very hard now but I can get the words out (mostly) without tearing up. Just after she died I was so lost and found an online community and read stories such as those posted here. It helps I think.

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Oct 30, 2013
Today is the fifth anniversary of my Mother death
by: Doreen UK

Anne I am sorry for your loss of your mother. Even though you are still feeling such sorrow from your loss of your mother and now posting on this site you should benefit from other stories of loss which you can identify with. But it doesn't lessen your pain and loss as this would be personal to you and cause you such loneliness and emptiness from your loss of your mother who is and was such an integral part of your life and in life generally. We all have different life experiences and it does help to share them. It does help when we grieve because we feel less alone with our grief.
I found taking one day at a time most helpful in moving forward from grief. I also changed my FOCUS. I NURTURED myself and this caring for myself helped me also in greater ways, because grief does to an extent assault our emotions and feelings. Grief throws up so many different emotions of guilt, regrets, anger, fear, failure etc. We have to let them run their course and they should then work itself out of our system as part of the Healing process.

Oct 29, 2013
fifth anniversary
by: Martha

I lost my mum August 2, 2013 one day after your mum Becky I know how you are feeling my thoughts and prayers are with both of you lets get through this together, I am so thankful for this web-site.


Oct 29, 2013
Dear Anne
by: Anonymous

I am sorry to read about your mother. I lost my father suddenly in January, and feel the same way you do. I can't believe u have made it through 9 months of this horrible grief. I know his spirit is with me, but I miss him so much and I cry every day-it is just an awful feeling. I now try to focus on the memories and I take things one day at a time. You are in my thoughts as you begin to heal. Peace, Barb

Oct 29, 2013
Understanding The Pain
by: Becky

I am so sorry for the loss of your Mother. I loss my Mother on Aug. 1, 2013. Every day is a hard day for me. I was really close to my Mother and now she is gone. My heart understands and it feels the same pain as yours. I will keep you in my prayers for comfort and strength.

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