Today, Today, Today Is The Eleventh Year And It Still Hurts

by Wondra
(Los Angeles, CA)

I still don't like the 29th of September and perhaps I never will for it is the day my loving, kind, and nurturing 34 year son died while in a house full of people. He had an asthma attack. No one called for help until he had turned blue. By then, it was too late. They let him die by not coming to his aid.

I miss him for he was the only person who loved me. He would often sing to me, "I'll always love my mama." Since I was a single parent, every Father's Day he would call to wish me a Happy Father's Day. It's been eleven years since I've been sung to, loved, and appreciated. I console myself with the fact that he truly loved me and someday, I'll see him again.

May God Bless anyone who has lost a child regardless of the age.

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Feb 12, 2013
Your son
by: Kate

Your son was a gift from God. My son died Nov 2012 . I am
In the new steps of this journey. It's hurts so deep because we had love! He really loved me too so I understand your loss. I know we learn as times goes on to deal with it but accepting it is so hard. I share your pain and emptiness that death leaves.
One day I pray, we will unite again.

Oct 04, 2012
So sorry
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry about your son. But he loved you!!! he loved you, and still does!!! What a blessing! have a daughter who hates me due to some mental and emotional illness, and it is agony. You will see your son again and hear him sing!

Oct 01, 2012
I know what you mean about
by: Anna

I'm sorry for your loss of your son, I lost my son almost 5yrs ago 01/21/2008, and I know that no matter what I tell myself a few days before that day, time just stops and the memories of that day comeback. Thank you for making feel that I'am not crazy and that no matter if its 1mth, 1yr, 5yr,11yrs the pain and memories will always be there. God Bless.

Oct 01, 2012
today,today,the 11th yr
by: silver

Wondra,I,thankfully,don't know what it is to lose a child.My baby sister(8 yrs younger than me) died 11 yrs ago on Nov 1st.She also died of an asthma attack. I am 63 and you know that long ago the oldest(me)took care of the younger ones.I bathed her,dressed her,fed her,played with her, put her to bed and later took her to and from the school bus. When we became adults we enjoyed many of the same things. We were best friends. My 3rd&4th and her 2nd&third children were 7 yrs apart.When she died she had 2 children in early 20's and one 12 and one 13.I know my parents grieved a lot,after all that was their youngest child-the baby of six kids,but somehow I grieved along with them.So thought I can't truly know your grief I do understand it.I send love and prayers your way.GOD give you strength to help you along

Sep 30, 2012
Today, is the 11th Year and it still HURTS.
by: Doreen U.K.

Wondra I am so sorry for your loss of your son 11years ago from Asthma. I have Asthma and It is a concern as speed is needed here to get the person to E.R. quickly.
To lose a child/Adult is the worst experience a parent can go through. How does one go on in life when losing an Adult child. As old as our children get we will never stop worrying about them and their safety. I have 3 Adult children and I worry about their safety all the time. I lost my husband to cancer almost 5 months ago and I am more vulnerable now to loss.
I hope that you have loving supportive friends and family around you to comfort you and make your grief journey more bearable ~ ~ ~ ~

Sep 30, 2012
Your Son
by: Debi M.

Wondra -

I am so sorry that you lost your son. He sounds like he was a great guy and truly had great love for you. I hope that with each passing day you find some comfort and know that you will see him again.

Debi M.

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