tony

by mary
(alabama)



my sons name is tony, he was thirty eight yrs old he lived with me a few months with two of my granddaughters he had taken from the mother, he met a girl online and they decided to meet. so he left here with the girls on march 29th heading to Missouri from Alabama, he made it to the Kentucky line and went over the medium to on going traffic and was hit twice, one of my granddaughters AGE 11 DIED INSTANTLY, MY SON AND FIFTEEN YR OLD GRANDDAUGHTER WAS TRASPOTED TO THE HOSP, WHERE MY SON Passed away, my granddaughter was air lifted to another hosp where she also passed away. this is so hard to understand and the grief is so hard. I miss them so much, it is so hard to lose a child ,they don't know what caused him to go over to on going traffic, so they assume he fell a sleep, he was only on the road two and a half hrs, my question is what really happened I will never know, until I see him again,

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Jul 28, 2013
the greatest loss
by: Anonymous

your blog hit me right in my heart. Ive lost both parents and felt horrific grief...but nothing compared to losing my 29 yr. old son in 2009. I stopped living. 10 m0s. later I slowing returned to work but I was never the same. then last dec.19th I lost another son. I am devastated. inconsolable. I no my life as Ive known it is over. I feel your pain...believe me. nothing is as terrible as losing a child.no matter what age.maybe if they had been sick...or terminally ill and I had seen them suffer I would feel a little different,but like you I lost them both suddenly. sorry I had to share

Jul 28, 2013
Tony
by: Kate

I am touched by your loss very much. All 3of your loves gone together is such a tremendous loss. Losing a child is a deep loss that is very hard . I lost my 39 yr old son 8 months ago.
The road is hard. Death is a strong pain that on here we do understand. You have others who know and care as you endure this very hurtful path of loss,my heart goes out to you.

Jul 27, 2013
Tony
by: Kate

I am so so sorry you know this tragic loss. I wrote before but it didnt post yet? I lost my 39 year old sone 8 months ago. It is so hard,so many emotions,pain sorrow,anger,devastation. On here we do understand and care. My heart is with you.

Jul 26, 2013
Your Tony and family
by: Kate

My heart goes out to you in this terrible loss,not only your son but grandchildren too,is horrible. I lost my 39 yr old son 8 months ago and it is horrible to loose a child I know! Now you have your 2 grandchildren gone making it so overwhelming! I am so deeply sorry you have to know this much pain! Death is the hardest thing ever in this Lfe and it is not easy to heal from. It rips you apart and creates so many emotions. Shock is the first,then denial,it can't be invades us,anger comes sorrow,pain,guilt like what could we have done,,we try to think and everything is wrong. It is a hard path and I know you have lost so much and I truly feel for you. We can only take a day at a time,sometimes only an hour to keep going in the misery of loss. It is constantly with us. We only learn to live with it but we never get over it. God has strength that we do not. I ask for help often ,I hate death and need help to face it. On here many care and understand . We all hurt here. With love to you ,Kate

Jul 24, 2013
Tony
by: Anonymous MI

The grief of loosing our loved ones is unbearable and the journey is raw and so very painful. I have lost my dear husband 8 months ago and the pain is etched in my heart and brain and I come crashing down at a moment's notice. A song, a smell, a sweet memory and the realization that he is gone from my life and from my grown kids and grandkids lives brings anew the grief. In all of our suffering and sorrows there is but One answer for us--we must turn to our Lord asking for Him to lead us through this dark valley of sorrow and out to a place where we can see the joy and hope in our lives again. God is our only way of dealing with our loss. We must seek Him and follow Him and pray for His comfort and mercy. I am so sorry for all of our burden of grief.

Jul 24, 2013
So sorry
by: Deb

Dear Mary,

I can't fathom your pain of losing not only your son,but your precious grandchildren. I just lost my brother to a horrific suicide on father's day and we are having such a hard time with his suicide. We had been on the phone with him and just couldnt believe he took his life with a gun 3 hours later.

I know our pain is immense and hard to deal with but your pain is tripled. I am not sure I am much support for you, but know that I am so sorry. I am thinking of getting counseling and if I were you, I would get some grief counseling as well as some type of support system.

I am so sorry and this site has been a God send for me knowing I am not alone. I hope you find some solice in knowing we are here for each other.

I hope also you find some answers.


Jul 24, 2013
tony
by: Doreen U.K.

Mary I am sorry for your loss of son and 2 granddaughters to a sudden death. This is so hard to lose 3 people at one time. Those girls would have been such a comfort to you, they had their whole lives ahead of them.
Life is so cruel. We don't know what will happen in life but when it does all go wrong it affects our life forever. At the same time we have to enjoy every moment with the one's we love we cannot fill our days with worry about what will happen.
We used to have a saying that it is no use worrying about what will never happen. But it does happen, and we can't help but worry. All we can do is to pray over our loved ones every day for safety in life and when travelling, because none of us knows what we are spared from if we Pray over our lives, and the lives of all our loved ones. I am sorry for your loss and what this has done to your future.

Jul 24, 2013
so sorry to tony for losing your son and grandaughter.
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry about your son and granddaughter.. My daughter had just turned 25 may11 it was her birthday and mothers day and on may12 jenny and my granddaughter who was 5 got into a bad car accident my granddaughter was also airlifted to a hospital two hours away from me my jenny died and they got her heart beat back and when I got to the hospital they were trying to save her. They would not let me see her until it was to late to tell her that I loved her. I will never forgive that hospital for not letting me be with her in the emergency room. so I never was able to tell her much I loved her. But my granddaughter Alanna was in critical condition. But thank god she At 5 she had to go home to no mommy she has had a hard life in her young age and she will never recover from losing her mother. so my heart goes out to you.I do know what its like and I have been told to get over it and its time to get on with my life. Our lives will never be the same again and no I will never get over it. I will always live with pain and sorrow. I miss my beautiful little jenny.

Jul 24, 2013
Tony
by: Fabio

Dear budd ,i v lost my son to a month ago on a motorbike accident he eas foing all rite think to do he was at a track professionally organized , and he was my only child. Of 23 years old i feel for your loss and i do understand what u ate hoing truogh i wish i could rewind the clock back for both of us but life is crap so my only way to cope he s to belive in a spiritual life and rest sure they r all there with you just next to you hope you get better soon or at list more tollersnt to the loss it will mever go away rest sure the pain is umbrreble sorry for your loss. :((((((

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