Too many losses in a short period of time.....

by Mary WD
(Greenfield, WI/USA)

On October 5, 2005 was the beginning of the end of what life was. This is the day we found out about my husband's cancer diagnosis. It was inoperable. That night I went to bed and couldn't stop crying. I couldn't sleep that night. I went into work and stood at the door of my boss's office. As soon as she looked up I burst into tears. This woman was my savior. To make a long story short, my husband of 22 years succumbed to his disease on February 15, 2007. My life as I knew it was forever gone. In December of that year, my biggest supporter resigned her position. I was devastated. But with all the changes going on I understood. Three months after she left the company hired the B***H from hell. Two months after she started I ended up on probation. Mind you I received a glowing review one month after my husband passed. In September of 2008 I was involved in a near fatal car accident with a drunk driver. The only thing that saved me was I was belted in. I received severe bruising but luckily no broken bones. But still I needed to contact my daughter as I was on my way to her house to pick her up. Of course, she was hysterical when I talked to her. But still I had to go to the hospital. By the time I got to the hospital the look on my daughter's face was pure fear. Anyway, when I called into work on Monday and informed my boss what happened she asked me if I could come into work the next day. All the bruising hadn't come out yet. I told this woman I could not. I was NOT released by the doctor. In fact I had to have surgery on my finger that I dislocated very badly. Almost one month to the day I was terminated from a company that I just loved working for. Now almost 4 years later I am still trying to find a job. Am I angry? Yes. That my husband didn't give up those damn cigarettes like I asked numerous times. I am also a former smoker. After what I saw do to my mother it was enough incentive to quit.....cold turkey. After all this time I just wished SOMETHING....anything would come my way to put a smile back on my face.

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Aug 08, 2012
I'm so sorry.
by: Grace

I am Grace, I am 11 years old, and I am very sorry for your loss. My dads friend went through a similar situation.

First his wife died from colon cancer, then his dog, that he had since he was a kid ran away , and later found on the side of a highway. Soon after that, he lost his house. He had to move in with his mother. But his mother was having some type of surgery which she might die from. Luckly she didn't though.

He spent almost a year at his mothers house before getting back on his feet again. He told my dad that he became strong again when he adopted this blind, deaf puppy who was lucky enough to survive a flood. He said that having something that has been through a lot worse makes you feel better.

I suggest you adopt a cat/dog/horse/bot-belly pig or any animal that has special needs, or has a background story. It can be comforting to you to know that other things go through horrible experiences, and this little guy can keep you

~ Grace 11 year old

Jul 18, 2012
Too many losses in a short period of time.....
by: Doreen U.K.

Mary I am sorry for the loss of your husband and also for the loss of your job. You have every right to be angry. Anger is part of your grief.
My husband was a smoker also but gave this up. My husband Steve died on 5th May 2012 of MESOTHELIOMA
(Asbestos related lung cancer) caused by working with Asbestos. This cancer takes 40 years to develop. It is inoperable, incurable, and aggressive. I was Steve's caregiver for 3yrs.39days. Steve was ill throughout the whole of his cancer and had no quaility of life. It has been 9 weeks now I have lost Steve. The Oncologist said that Steve's smoking had nothing to do with his lung cancer it was purely Asbestos related.
Try and see a bereavement counsellor to help you cope with each loss. Loss of husband and loss of job. You will experience healing and be able to move forward better into a new job. If you are a praying person. Leave everything in God's hands and let Him know how much you need a job and to help provide you with one. Email Christian TV channels and Christian Radio stations and ask them to pray over your situation. Many people here in England are facing the same difficulties and I hear all the prayers for healing and help to find a job. Many prayers are answered. I hope all goes well for you in the days, weeks, and months ahead and that you will find Peace, support in your grief and a New job in which you are happy in. Best wishes.

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