Too many losses

by Yvonne

My name is Yvonne, I was on this site when my husband passed away in 2010. Just after my husband passed away my mother got very ill and I moved her in with me so I could take care of her. up until last October I was taking care of her and she passed away after that I would call my aunt every day because my mom had been calling her. my aunt is 98 I had to go to the hospital I had to have a pacemaker put in so I missed calling my aunt on the day of my operation the next day when I came home I called and was told my aunt had passed away I didn't have time to grieve my husband when I move my mom in. Taking care of her 24 seven was so very hard. then my mom passed away and now my aunt has passed away I feel so alone so very alone

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Feb 06, 2014
by: Judith in California

That was supposed to be.....I pray for you some peace Yonne.

Feb 06, 2014
Too Many Losses
by: Judith in California

Hi Yvonne, I remember when you first came to this site. It was about the same time as I did after my husband passed.

I'm so sorry for all of your losses. It certainly an take a toll on your emotions. Might I suggest a counselor to where you can go and get your feelings and thoughts out ?

I'm also sorry you had to have surgery and go it alone. Been there , done that and it's most awful when you wkaae up and your love is not there to watch over you and care

You are not alone Yvonne. We are here for you.

If you can , set aside some time each day or evening to grieve each one of your losses . I pray for you someplace Yvonne.

Feb 06, 2014
by: Anonymous

I just read your situation and I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm praying for you so that you could make it through during this very hard time for you. God is with you.. When I lost my loved one I thought I would never recover and I'm not there yet but there have been some nice days and I don't cry everyday like I used to. I just want you to know I'm thinking about you

Feb 06, 2014
Too many losses
by: Doreen UK

Yvonne I am sorry for your loss of your husband, mum and now aunt. You need to see a grief counsellor who is skilled to help you work through each loss so it is not piled on top of each other.
When we keep losing people from our lives it leaves us vulnerable to losing others from our life and to then feel the impact of feeling ALL ALONE. I feel like this now since I lost my husband 21 months ago. I always ran the home whilst my husband worked long hours away from home often and overseas for the last 47yrs. But somehow knowing he is not here for support makes my job of handling the home seem so isolated and alone. He was a carpenter and now I need one to fix repairs around the home. Now we will all feel the loneliness that death brings to our door. I always dreaded being on my own and now it is a reality, and one of the worst emotional experiences of life. Even if I structure my day and keep busy that EMPTINESS will always be there. No one can fulfil the place our loved one did. As we go through life we will keep losing people, jobs, homes, friends, pets, and we will find recovery difficult. There are no easy answers. I am glad we have this site to exchange our stories, experiences, and our grief journey that will help support each other through our loss. Taking one day at a time is the best advice I received on this site and has helped me cope better.

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