Too Much Death

by Elaine
(Thunder Bay, Ontario)

I was 6 months pregnant with my son and first grandchild when my Mother died. She was diagnosed with Lymphoma, both hodgkins and non hodgkins July of 1992. December 16th 1992 she died. Two days prior when my Mom went into a coma my Father was rushed into the hospital with a twisted hernia, he had his surgery the morning of the 16th my Mom died that evening.

December 27th 1992, we receive a message that my father in law died from throat cancer.

December 16th 1994 my Father was diagnosed with Lung cancer, he died March 4, 1995.
Both my parents had been doing well until they were given morphine and their kidneys shut down. Into a coma they both went and died a few days later.

Another phone call from Europe that our 18 year old nephew died. He committed suicide.

June 30th 2000 I receive a phone call that my oldest brother was found dead in his apartment. They found an abscess in his chest.

March 2009 my best friend of 30 years died of a brain aneurysm at home.

May 10th, 2012 our beloved cat of 15 1/2 years suddenly becomes ill and dies.

So many friends, relatives, kids that we know have all passed in the past 4 years.

We are seeing too much death and feeling too much grief.

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Dec 18, 2014
by: Anonymous

I lost my son in April, my father in November and my aunt and grandmother in December .
Been drunk for a year.
I am a welder and can't keep a job.
Wrecking my relationship, disowned my family but still a mess.
Looking for something ...
Lost all interest in everything.
I was a avid outdoors woman,
Hunted, rode motorcycles, flew planes, played sports etc..
Now... I work and sleep, drink.


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May 15, 2012
I understand
by: carol,seans mom

Unfortunately I know how you feel. In 2002 my 45 year old broter in law died suddenly of a heart attack. He died on Christmas. Thanksgiving he spent at the Macy Day Parade in New York and Christmas he was gone. My Dad got liver cancer in 2006 and only survived about 13 weeks. In 2009 My mother in law died,in 2010 my father in law died on my daughters 15 birthday,November 28th. Also the summer of 2010 our beloved dog Max died. Along came 2011. We were doing ok this year until the biggest tragedy of all struck,my 24 year old son did not wake up on November 13,2011. He was officially declared dead on November 15th. My world has been shattered since. But along came 2012 and less than a month ago my 54 year old sister in law died of cancer. She was the wife of my brother in law who died in 2002. Her children are left with no parents. I am left without one of my beautiful children. Sean was my oldest of three and my only son. Death is just too much!

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