"TOO MUCH FOR ONE PERSON TO BEAR"

by Rhonda Mcmullen
(Syracuse, New York)

MY ANGEL

MY ANGEL

IT ALL STARTED 3 YEARS AGO, FEBUARY 9,2006 @ 9:00AM. I GOT A THAT PHONE CALL, MY MOTHER TELLING ME THAT THAT MY SISTER WENDY WAS NOT BREATHING. SO I CALLED MY NIECE TO MAKE SURE SHE WASN'T OVER-EXAGGERATING THE SITUATION. ON THE OTHER END OF THE PHONE WAS SCREAMING AND PANIC, AND I INSTRUCTED HER TO CALL 911.

MEANWHILE I WAS ON MY WAY TO HER, SHE LIVED JUST 5-7 MINUTES AWAY, WHICH FELT LIKE HOURS TO ME. WHEN I FINALLY GOT THERE, OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS HAD ARRIVED AND WERE STILL ARRIVING.

INDEED SHE WAS GONE IN HER BED, WITH THE MOTION OF TRYING TO GET UP. SHE HAD DIED FROM A FATAL SEIZURE DUE TO AN ALLERGIC REACTION TO A MEDICAL PROCEDURE DONE ON HER THE DAY BEFORE.

ON DECEMBER 29, 2007 1 YEAR, 10 MONTHS LATER, JUST WHEN I THOUGHT MOURNING AND TRYING TO RECOVER FROM MY SISTER'S DEATH HAD BECOME A PART OF MY EVERYDAY LIFE, MY NEPHEW TRAMARRA WAS TAKEN FROM ME ABRUPTLY AT THE HANDS OF SOMEONE ELSE. WRONG PLACE, WRONG TIME. HE WAS STABBED MULTIPLE TIMES, 1 FATAL BLOW PEIRCED HIS HEART. HE DIED SEVERAL MINUTES AFTER HE WAS RUSHED TO THE HOSPITAL AFTER UNSATISFACTORY REVIVAL.

SO YOU KNOW HOW THEY SAY DEATH COMES IN THREES? IF I WASN'T A BELIEVER OF THAT BEFORE, I AM NOW. SIX MONTHS AFTER TRYING TO PICK UP THE PIECES FROM THAT TRAGEDY, MY PRECIOUS, PRECIOUS MOTHER IOLA PASSED AWAY JUNE 27, 2008 @5:15 IN MY HOME AFTER A SUFFERABLE ILLNESS. SHE HAD BEEN IN AND OUT OF HOSPITALS AND NURSING HOMES. SHE WAS FINALLY PUT ON HOSPICE AND WAS MOVED WHERE SHE'D WANTED TO BE ALL ALONG. HER ILLNESS BECAME MORE AND MORE RAPID AND TERMINAL.

SHE HAD THE LOVE AND CAREFUL UNDIVIDED ATTENTION FOCUSED ON HER. THAT'S IT, I CAN'T TAKE MUCH MORE, SHE WAS MY PRIDE, MY JOY, MY EVERYTHING. AND NOW MY EVERYTHING IS GONE FOREVER. SHE WAS A CHRISTIAN WOMAN, AND SHE SERVED GOD RIGHT UP TIL HER DEATH BED. SHE WAS DEFINITELY AND TRULY A WOMAN OF GOD. SHE AT PEACE NOW...

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Jun 01, 2009
Many Sympathies
by: Angela

I completely understand where you are coming from. In November '03 I lost grandfather, that set off a three that ended with my 59 year old mother dying in front of me of an illness we never knew she had. 2.5 years another 3 was set off with my fathers passing.

I know that nothing I say can alleviate the loss, but know I feel for your loss, having experienced it myself. May time help you adjust.

A couple of things that help are the Footsteps Poem and the belief that God does not give us that which we can not cope with, and that we should turn to Him when it feels like the road is too hard and too long.

I hope things get better for you.

Angela

P.S. one more thing, it isn't just death that comes in threes, its births and weddings too, keep an eye out for it! X

Mar 28, 2009
It is too much to bear...
by: Heidi

I have never heard anyone say that death comes in threes... but now I realize that is totally true and I have experienced it myself. Going through that many deaths in such a short time is hard. I have had to face that myself and I am not even through it yet.

It is a lot to bear, but God is always with you and He's walking by your side. You're not going through this alone. I know I don't always feel God's presence there with me but I know He is ALWAYS there. I know I hide it all inside to cover up the pain or in a way avoid it all together but that doesn't work. The pain is too much for us to bear alone. So lift your worries, your pain, your fear, lift it all up to God.

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