Too much to take
My brother in law died suddenly and unexpectedly aged just 34 from an undiagnosed heart condition leaving the whole family devastated and my husband utterly broken and crushed at the loss of his brother and best friend. He struggles to see how life can go on without him and is struggling with the utter unfairness of it all. My Brother in Law was the most selfless, caring person you could ever meet and he had already suffered through his life with depression and disability. It was a gross injustice.
Then, less than a month later my Mum was found dead in her hallway having suffered a brain haemmorhage due to a fall. She was just 60. I feel as though our whole world has come crashing down on us; we didn't know how purely happy we were until the happiness was snatched away from us. I don't feel I can even begin to grieve for my Mum openly because (through no fault of my husband's) he is in such deep grief himself it is too much for us to cope with.
I have begin suffering from agonising pain in my neck caused by pure grief and tension, and it's hard to see when we will ever feel better.
We are both opting for counselling, and although I know it's not a quick fix, I only hope it will help us to see a way forward through this awful time.