Too Old to Start Over -
I'm 60 in a few weeks and live in a nice but modest house in the country. I run a cattery ... very clean and loving. I show my champion purebreds in an accredited association (in case anyone thinks I'm a hoarder). I have 2 adult sons who do not live very close by.
My husband is addicted to sex I think. I always knew he fooled around but chose to ignore it. In recent years he has received a written police warning to stay away from talking to women on the street ....a year passed and then be got arrested for solicitation. The police impounded his (my) vehicle and to make a long story less complicated it cost our modest life savings to pay all the various fees and the lawyer.
Another year passed and he got another warning ... about a year (again) after that he was caught in a "john sting" and arrested again. He had to go to court and the judge let him off but it still cost various fees.
Just yesterday a lady who adopted one of my kittens told me that my husband telephoned her making lewd remarks and she is concerned for her safety (her name/address/phone info was on the kitten contract).
I would leave but have nowhere to go ... no job for many years out here in the country (I have skills but rusty) so must move closer to a city ... but need a job first to save up for a place ... but no job without the city ... round and round it goes ... and it takes a lot of time to find homes for many cats.
Besides, I'm 60 ... who will hire this rusty bucket? I will keep moving forward, though. I've squirreled away a few dollars from each kitten placement over the last 7 years and it should take me less time than that to save up a bit more to be enough to leave.
I grow tired of the humiliation and look forward to emancipation at last. Every night I lie in bed checking the job and small house for sale (nearer the city) ads on the net ... when I stumbled across this site and decided to speak up, too.
Best wishes to everyone ... keep going ... I don't want another relationship - just peace and dignity.