Two Mothers, one week

I lost my beloved mama on August 16, 2012. She was 83 and had been in a nursing home for several years. Thankfully she went quickly and peacefully but it hasn't made her passing any easier. That week I was numb but filled with the spirit of her love. In fact I truly believe it was she who sent me the words for her eulogy. We buried her on August 20 and her will was read on the 21.

I had just begun to somewhat feel alive again when on August 23, we lost my mother in law who I was also very close to as she had lived with us for almost 12 years.

Now some almost three weeks after losing mama and two weeks after losing mum I find myself frozen. I feel like I've not been able to truly grieve either of them. I tear up but the tears won't fall and I know that can't be healthy for me.

Why can't I cry? I loved them both so much and losing them within 7 days is almost unbelievable. I tried to go back to swimming which I was just learning to do and now it's like I lost all my confidence and joy. I'm once again terrified of the water. What is wrong with me, why can't I grieve?

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Sep 06, 2012
Two Mothers, one week
by: Doreen U.K.

I am sorry for your loss of 2 mothers in one week. You have had a shock. You will be feeling numb and frozen with grief. This is why you can't grieve. Grief will come in its own time and in its own way. No two people greive the same way. Everyone's grief will last different durations. When you thaw out you will feel the full grief like nothing you have ever experienced. Tears are all we have when we are in Pain of losing someone from our lives. We grieve in stages and not all at one time. So be prepared for some very bad days. Days you will move forward and times you will regress. But it is only TIME that will HEAL all of us from LOSS.

Sep 06, 2012
Your Moms
by: Trudy-Q

What a LOT you have been through - losing 2 great loves in such a few days. I send you my care and sympathy - I really do feel for you. I lost my precious mom a little over 3 weeks ago on August 11, 2012 - she was 96 and had been bedridden 24/7 the last 9 months - I thought I was "prepared" to lose her, but I wasn't. I'm in shock with feelings all over the place, and most of the time feeling very depressed and empty. I can only imagine what you must be going through right now. I'll hold you in my thoughts and prayers. Try to be kind and gentle and patient with yourself as best you can.

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