I occasionally had thoughts or fears that my husband of 2.5 years was unfaithful but he always had an excuse or way to talk himself out of corners. I believed him.
Before we married we both lost our jobs (working at the same location) in Ohio and he decided to take a transfer to South Carolina with the same company. I moved there with him.
We have an almost 2 year old daughter now and just recently moved back to Ohio due to him finding a better position. We have not yet sold our SC house and therefore cannot afford an apartment or home of our own. I am living at my parents with our daughter and he lives with his mother. We would stay over at each others homes several times a week.
Lately I have been finding odd charges on his credit card...bar tabs for $70 when I had no idea he even went out. Again, excuses that it was last minute. Just 3 days ago I found a charge, "**ypal ***l m***a" which I found to be odd so I googled it. *shl** ******on. An affair site. When confronted about it he became angry and told me it must be fraud. Told me I needed to stop accusing him of cheating every other day.
Once again, I forgave him because of his excuse but woke up next to him at 3am with a hunch. I got on his phone and went*********.com. I could not sign in but a profile name came up in the box. He had an account. I also discovered a secret email he had (which I could not sign into) which had "sc" in it. I know now that he has been doing this since we moved to South Carolina together. When I googled the email it came up with an a********.com page of which all the information provided pointed right at him. He was "friends" with 12 women from the surrounding area. It also told me he made the page on 9/20/2011. Our daughter was already 5 months old.
I calmly confronted him the following day and explained all the evidence I had against him. He just stared at me. Nothing. He could not deny it anymore. I had no evidence however that he was doing anything more than TALKING to these women. I told him to sign into his A*************** account and show me the messages. Prove that he was not meeting up with them. He refused and I drove away.
That was 2 days ago. Since then I have received only two texts. "I'm sorry, Emily" after work that day and today, "Do you think we need some time apart?" I responded that I thought if he cared for his daughter or saving our marriage that he would try to do something. I have heard nothing since.
It is killing me not knowing if he is feeling badly or seeing this as a free for all. Time to go out, get drunk and find some women! If it were not for my daughter I might just walk away but we also have a home and debt. I mostly feel numb. I have not even been able to cry yet. It's so unbelievable to me so far...how was I so blind??