Vic Hassett 28-1-1948 to 26-3-2012

by Karen Hassett
(Mulbarton Johannesburg South Africa)

It’s a month today and the pain is unbearable, I can’t stop thinking of you and how much I miss you. I wish you were here to see how everybody loved you, how much you meant to your children, your daughter-in-laws and your grandchildren. I wish you could hold me once more and tell me you are OK where you are. That you are happy and have met all our loved ones that have passed on, and you are not alone.
What I long for now is so much more meaningful than my frivolous wishes of last month. To touch you, to feel you, to hold you and hear you. To see your smile and hear the laughter in your voice. Our house is not a home without you more like an empty shell.
Our dreams, hopes and happiness seemed to have died with you. I feel as if I died with you and am just here in body.
The way you left us was so terrible, we knew you were suffering but never expected that you would go in an accident, and it would take 24 hours before we found out what had happened and where you were. The worry and frustration of not being able to do anything for you, or be with you when you breathed your last will never leave us.
They say time is a great healer, but today the pain is worse than last month, I miss you so much and will always love you. Not an hour goes past without me thinking of you. I remember our song “Total Eclipse of my Heart” and now know that is what I am going through, no more sunshine just dark and painful days ahead.
I love you, you will always be my "baby-shoes". Rest in peace until we meet again
Your loving wife

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Apr 27, 2012
I too lost my beloved husband
by: Anonymous

I lost my beloved Henry on March 29, 2012. I hate this. He was my life, my everything. I don't like going on without him. I know that I have to. I have had to go through many difficulties in my 50 years of life but this is the worst thing I have every had to go through.I wish I never had to go through this. I am sorry if this sounds like I am venting, I guess I am. I am so lost and also don't know what to do. I feel you might understand the pain I also am going through as I feel I understand yours. I am sorry for you loss as I am sorry for mine also. Thank you for sharing as it has helped me to feel less alone in my grief.

Apr 26, 2012
Take It Slowly
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry for your loss. I think for the first 6 months after losing our husbands and loves we are just operating in survival mode. We're just going through the motions. Everything is new to us. One of the hardest things I have ever experienced was seeing my husband's lifeless body. We were married for almost 38 years. I was 19 when we met. I had to basically learn to live my life all over again. I'm still learning. I felt like I was in a foreign land and didn't speak the language.
It does get better. It's been almost 18 months for me. I think we just adjust. We learn to live without them although the love and yearning never goes away.
Take things slowly. Be good and patient with yourself. Take things just one day at a time.
God bless.

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