by Victoria
(Houston, Texas)

I've navigated a string of losses and now I face one that I cannot seem to overcome...leaving my children and my home for nearly 30 years. I've lived in my city for a long time and have friends so cherished they feel like family. My children are in college here in their early 20's. My husband has to relocate for work. We have a great relationship and I want to be supportive...yet I feel awful and I cannot seem to get enthused about my new city, new beginnings. I love my children and it hurts to think I'll move so far away. Thanks for reading my story...Victoria

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Jan 09, 2012
Thanks to Judith in California
by: Victoria593

Thank you, Judith. I've suffered severe losses, and, you are right, this one is certainly not as bad as losing someone to death or my earlier losses. As I read your post and reflected, my sense is that my system is fatigued by loss and grief over the past 22 years. You offered sensible, heart-felt advice and insight...and I thank you from the depths of my heart. I am going to choose to see this as renewal, not loss. Will work hard to reframe it. I hope your healing is coming along as you navigate each day, each step at a time. Grief has its own character. I am glad you are connecting with others and know that you are making a real difference. Holding you in my heart and prayers right now. Victoria

Jan 09, 2012
Get Excited - It could be Worse
by: Judith in California

Victoria, what you're feeling is normal. It's hard to move to another city and begin again . To give up 30 years of the known for the unknown. Won't your old friends write to you, call or e-mail and keep up with you and you them? Won't they come visit ? Try to look forward to new experiences and meeting new friendly people and the excitement of decorating a new home for your children to come to. It will make the transition easier for you and your husband. I'm sure it will be tough for him as well. What you're feeling is separation anxiety from all that is familiar. Thank God it's not worse in having to deal with death or divorce . You're blessed to be able to begin a new journey with your life partner. Most of us here would trade places with you just to be able to have our deceased soul mates return to move to anywhere with.

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