We had such a short time together....

by Cathy

We had both been in previous relationships with alcoholics, we met and immediately fell in love and married within two short years. He went out to work and never came home, he died of a heart attack in his car, the paramedics found him slumped over his steering wheel pulled over at the side of the road. We had been husband and wife for only 75 days.

We were so blissfully happy, happy to have found each other, to have found love with total trust, supported each other and loved totally. How can this have been taken from us, how can life be so cruel? I had waited 43 years to get married, carefully chosen the man of my dreams, not prepared to accept second best. I had faced life alone willingly rather than be with the wrong person. Having found the right person, my perfect fit, we were planning our whole future together.

My life now continues with this empty space where there was happiness. It feels like my life has been stolen. I have my Mum and brothers and a niece and nephew. I see a lot of his stepdaughter, the only real physical connection with him now. His brother and sister are barely in contact, our relationship was relatively short and no real bond was made with them. They were of little support during the first unbearable days and weeks; in fact they were a pain in the ass!

I am trying to live for the both of us now; I do believe that our souls live on and that he is with me, and one day we will be reunited. This does not make the grief any easier, in a way it makes moving on impossible, I feel that he is with me and always will be, so how can I move on?

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Feb 06, 2012
Wow. I feel your pain
by: Anonymous

I am truly sorry for your loss. I can imagine what you must be feeling... The days of confusion, when grief seems to consume your mind. I will pray for your peace as you go through this awful season in your life. I like you had been in previous relationships even married and divorced... But I was blessed with another chance but only 18 months of marriage with this wonderful caring, loving man. I gave him my heart the night we got married and I just knew we would travel the world, grow in the ministry and have a long love affair.. He went to the hospital for test Aug 22, 2011 was diagnosed with cancer on the 26th and October 22, 2011 my precious husband was gone... I am so lost without him and sometimes I feel like I'm just walking in a trance, this cant be real how and why is this happening? Be encouraged my sister and don't lose HOPE....

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