We Know We are Getting Better When.........
My daughter Michelle and her Dad
I saw something on this site that made me do some real soul searching. One of our fellow grievers made the comment that he was searching for a new normal after losing his wife. For now the only normal I know is my husband (7 weeks now).
I remember graduating from high school (I was a young 17) and being terrified of what lay ahead for me. The thought of venturing out on my own was beyond frightening. That's exactly where I am right now. I'm going out on my own (only it's 41 years later).
I read an article yesterday entitled, We Know We are Getting Better When.........
You look forward to getting up in the morning~
The roles left by our loved one is being filled by ourselves or others~
You feel confident again and are in touch with your new identity~
You can accept things as they are and not try to keep things as they were~
It feels good to remember~
You can drive somewhere on your own without crying all the time~
You can look forward to and enjoy holidays~
The music you shared with the one you lost is no longer painful to listen you (actually enjoyable again)~
You are less sensitive to comments people make~
You can acknowledge your new life and be thankful for the personal growth you have attained through grieving~
I don't know. I flunk on all of the above. I'm looking forward to the day that I can actually say those things are true. I'm that 17 year old girl all over again. I did it once so I'll pray for the strength to do it again. And as always.....one breath, one step at a time.