We were best friends for over 40 years

by John D. Robison Jr
(Brick , N.J.)

We met when we were 5 and just starting school . There are alot of things that I don't remember about those early years , but I remember our time clearly . We lived in the same neighborhood , rode the same bus and were in the same class . We literally everything together .
As we grew up , we continually became better and closer friends . At times we were inseparatable , we were closer than some siblings are .
Even through all of our schooling , the teenage years and eventually into our adult lives , we were in touch every day and saw each other whenever possible . Even when we had our own separate lives , we were there for each other no matter what !
I was working the night of May 23rd when I had this awful sinking feeling like I was coming down with the flu , but I continued to work and was eventually four hours away from my house .
My whole life changed at 8 a.m. on the morning of May 24th .
I received a phone call from her husband . On her way home from working late to cover someone else's shift , she was hit head on by a 3 time drunk driver , they said that it was a horrific accident , they were able to get her out of the vehicle , called Life Flight and attempted to stablize her before transporting her . She was hit around 11:30 p.m. on May 23rd and died 12:24 a.m. on May 24th . The husband thought I'd be sound asleep and didn't want to wake me up because of my crazy hours ....I will never get to see her again , hear her voice , my whole world has died ! We were friends for over 40 years ! I am in my late 40"s and don't know what to do or where to turn to !!!!
I never got to say goodbye !!!

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Jun 07, 2012
Best friends for over 40 years
by: Doreen England

I am sorry for your loss. A very long friendship and a sudden death will make you feeling as if you were hit by a truck. You will be feeling very numb and still a surreal experience, the shock and disbelief that your long time friend will not be around anymore and you will never be able to exchange in relationship anymore.
My husband died 4 weeks ago after 44 years of marriage. Long relationships will take longer to heal from and so expect to feel the way you are just now as if you can't go on anymore.
I feel as if I have been hit by a truck and can't go on. But I am pacing myself and only doing what I have to when I want to do it and I am facing my grief so I can get it over with and not have it lingering forever by being too busy that I don't feel grief.
No one likes grief but it is what we have to endure now and it is HELL. My days have been filled by being on this website and supporting now over 20 people and this has helped me, and it feels good to help others. I hope my words will lift you up and comfort you at this difficult time.

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