Wedding Ring or No Wedding Ring?
by Patricia Jones
(Lake Villa, IL)
Today has been one month for me. I don't feel like I've made much progress. The holidays were horrendous and the thought of spending 2011 without my husband is something I don't even want to think about.
There are so many things I haven't even sat down to try to figure out. My mind is in a fog. I wake up with a headache from crying most of the night.
I went to Borders yesterday to find a book on grieving. My 13 year old niece was with me and she was very impatient. She wanted to get to the "real stores" to spend her Christmas money. I quickly grabbed a book entitled Widow to Widow by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg, MS. I was thumbing through it last evening before I went to bed to try to sleep. A chapter ~ To Wear or Not to Wear Your Wedding Ring ~ jumped out at me. In the chapter it states that by removing our wedding rings it is a sign that we are ready to move on. We have accepted the death. Remove my wedding ring? What? Never! My husband is no longer here in the physical sense but I will be spiritually married to him for the rest of my life on this earth.
It was stated that it's up to the individual
. Right now there is no way I could consider taking my ring off. There were suggestions of having the ring shaped into another piece of jewelry or passed on to a family member for future use.
Will I feel differently in a few year? As this author states ~ is it really finally accepting the death?
I know everyone is different and handles things in their own way. I would love anyone to share their ideas and how they handled this big step.