What do I do?
My Husband had been gone 1 month then my 46 yr.old son came to see how I was doing. He was not working so I had some stuff needing doing so I put him to work with pay for the odd jobs. We have had a troublesome relationship most of his adult life and my husband could never accept him and talked to him terribly even tho i tried so hard to get along with is from a previous marriage.
Anyway my son, since he has been here, has been no moral support really and is dragging his feet doing the work needed. He has said on more than one occasion to get over it and that he wasn't sad to see him go. He didn't need to say that as I knew it already. I can't say a word to him with friendly advice before he blows it all out of proportion. Yesterday was no exception after i showed disappointment that he had no money to go get a 5.00 item. I in turn am not ready to deal with his outburst due to my delicate feelings so I get angry he is not understanding that.
I was so hoping to repair our relationship now that my husband has passed.
Anyway he left after his outburst and didn't come back until late and then he became very abusive verbally and belligerent and called me a Bitch and C--t. I could smell he had been drinking and asked him several times to stop talking because he was drunk. I told him he has two weeks to finish up the work then he is to take all his stuff and go. I just can't deal with him anymore.
It's sad to lose my husband and then my son too. Now I'll really be alone and that doesn't bother me so much as I'm so ashamed of him and sad he just will never "GET IT".