What Is My Dad Thinking?
My mother has been gone now for almost four years and my Dad has been dating one woman seriously for almost that same amount of time. He started seeing her three months after my mother's death. He has been telling me its not serious and she's providing companionship to him that he needs, which I completely understand, but now they're living together.
I wasn't concerned until a conversation I had with my Dad's girlfriend when I was taking them to the airport for their 'vacation'. I was having problems with my ex and she told me the next time he was creating problems I should tell him "My soon to be Stepmother has some words for him." I didn't hear anything else she said because my mind was on "SOON TO BE STEPMOTHER". Of course my Dad didn't say a word as he was driving on I-95 in South Florida and had to concentrate (if you live here, you know what I'm talking about). I was so floored and didn't know if I should say anything. I chose to not mention it because I didn't want to put my Dad on the spot. He didn't say ANYTHING to me about the two of them getting engaged, although he keeps telling me he loved my mother so much he could never, ever get married again nor does he want to.
This is freaking me out because I don't particularly like my Dad's girlfriend. She's always opinionated towards me, tells me I'm fat all the time. Okay, so I'm not exactly thin, but I don't need that pointed out to me. I don't wish to keep explaining to her that I'm a type two Diabetic on insulin and losing weight is difficult. She's as thin as a rail.
I realize my Dad needs companionship, but I feel like he's totally forgotten all about her and that hurts me. I tried to talk to him many times about this and my feelings about his girlfriend, but he never has time to talk. I thought we would grow closer now that Mom's gone and its just us, but that's not happening. He's pulling away from me and I don't know why. I realize I'm 43 years old and self-sufficient, but that doesn't mean I don't need him anymore.
I think if he intends on marrying this woman, he needs to be honest with me and my brother. So far he hasn't said anything and I don't know if I can believe anything his girlfriend says.
What does one do in this situation?