What now

by Danielle
(Orlando, fl)

I lost my husband tonight. I don't know what to feel just a few hours ago he was watching tv holding our beautiful 6 week old son, who looks just like his dad. And now he is gone. I miss him so much already and i still feel so numb. He was 32. I don't know what happened.

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Mar 28, 2012
YOU DEFINITELY SHOULD HAVE AN AUTOPSY PERFORMED.
by: LEON C. TUTHILL,SR.

We lost our beloved-27 year old son-LEON C. TUTHILL,JR.(MY NAMESAKE) on Friday-December 23, 2011 from a condition called-DILATED CARDIOMYOPATHY; a condition that neither he/us "knew he had". Because of his age, an autopsy was automatically performed-if not-we would have "demanded one"! Approximately 4 weeks after his death,we personally met with the "Coroner"; and we are glad we did. We received many answers we were looking for. I would be very curious to know your young husband's "cause of death". You may contact me at:bakerla14@yahoo.com. "NO ONE CAN TELL YOU HOW TO GRIEVE AND FOR HOW LONG". I BELIEVE IT IS AN "INDIVIDUAL PROCESS". I WISH YOU THE BEST!

Mar 28, 2012
So Sorry
by: Barbara

I am sooooo sorry. I am praying for you right now. I lost my 36 year old son six weeks about without warning and he left behind a pregnant wife. The pain is hard for me but so hard for his wife. Wish I could do something for you but I am praying right now. Did he just stop breathing? I hope someone is with you. Hugs.

Mar 28, 2012
For now you will Grieve
by: Judith in California

Danielle, I am sorry for your loss. For now you are still in shock. You must rest and grieve. A month down the road you won't remember much of this.

As you go on this horrible roller coaster ride of grief to finding peace, you will experience so many different things. Please read of lost spouses on this site and you will begin to know that whatever you will feel is normal . Grieve as mush as you can and as hard as you can ,as long as you want, anytime you feel it.. There is no time limit. Pray that God will give you the strength to see it though to the other side of it.

We are here for you. One breath, one minute one day at a time.


Mar 28, 2012
Still asking "What now".
by: Anonymous

Dear Danielle,

I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband who was far to young to leave you. And when it happens suddenly it makes the tragedy so much more difficult. I know because I lost my husband this past July in an accident and he was only 49 years old. I am now 8 months into the grief process, you are not even through the first 24 hours and my heart aches for you and your son.

I can't lie to you. All of us on this site are somewhere on this awful journey. One we did not ask for. Hopefully you have a good support system at home. Let people help. Don't push yourself, it takes time. You are only at the beginning of the most emotional roller coaster ride of your life. But it is comforting for me to know that everyone here understands.

If you can find a local support group I highly recommend that you look into it. Not just yet, it's a little too soon, but it has helped me immensely.

Come back to this site as often as you feel you the need. We are all here for each other.

One breath, one step, one day at a time. My email address is wrreefer@hotmail.com if you ever feel like talking.

Be kind to yourself.

Wendy

Mar 28, 2012
Prayers for you.
by: Anonymous

My heart goes out to you. I lost my husband in August of 2011 and feel really down and angry. I am still of the mindset that everything will reverse and we will be back to the happy loving, caring and carefree family that we were. Reading your story makes my heart break and realise that you are so young and have to go through life and bringing up the baby on your own. My prayers to you for strength and may you find love, support and light in the future ahead. Struggle is the meaning of life and we have to make it work for us. My sons are 20 and 17. Take care of yourself.

Mar 28, 2012
Prayers for you.
by: Anonymous

My heart goes out to you. I lost my husband in August of 2011 and feel really down and angry. I am still of the mindset that everything will reverse and we will be back to the happy loving, caring and carefree family that we were. Reading your story makes my heart break and realise that you are so young and have to go through life and bringing up the baby on your own. My prayers to you for strength and may you find love, support and light in the future ahead. Struggle is the meaning of life and we have to make it work for us. My sons are 20 and 17. Take care of yourself.

Mar 28, 2012
My heart goes out to you.
by: Shirley

I dont' think we will ever know why this happens. I lost my son yesterday and he was 33. I lost another son October 14th that was 28. I am looking for comfort by building a memorial garden or something as our closing on our new home is Friday. What a roller coaster.
Shirley

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