What People Say

It is interesting what people say to me. My husband died in July 2010. A little over six months ago. I am just now coming out of the fog and everything is hitting me. The word alone and the word forever have completely new meanings for me. But what people say to me is so offensive sometimes. You will get over it, you forget in time, my mom died. In the first place I will never get over him, he was my life, Forget that this man meant everything to me? And the fact that another person had passed away doesn't ease my pain it just makes me realize their pain.

But the best one was yesterday. I was told (matter of factly) that some time in our lives we will all go through this. Mmmmmm and????? I don't know how that eases my pain. I did say though that there will be no one in this world that will feel the pain of my dying the way I felt the pain of my husband's, because no one will have that same relationship with me. It is so hard on the first survivor. I miss my husband terribly. I realize people don't know what to say. But I WONDER IF THEY REALLY THINK BEFORE SAYING ANYTHING!